"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how do you even handle this statement?

_sideways_

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We had a date. She calls the next day...blah blah blah. But then she said. "Next time you drive your car cuz it's cold outside".
Ummm, 1) I hate to drive, not my thing. 2) she's basically a girl giving me orders.

Someone told me that she was casually saying that to see if I actually had a car, like If I had said, no I don't have one.

But, I took it as a strike.

Thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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marmel75

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Why wouldn't you want to drive? Makes no sense to me
 

dustmuffin

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We had a date. She calls the next day...blah blah blah. But then she said. "Next time you drive your car cuz it's cold outside".
Ummm, 1) I hate to drive, not my thing. 2) she's basically a girl giving me orders.

Someone told me that she was casually saying that to see if I actually had a car, like If I had said, no I don't have one.

But, I took it as a strike.

Thoughts?
Maybe I will..
I'll think about it. Or just ignore..
Why wouldnt you want to drive?
 

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I don't like to drive cuz I love being driven to daydream on the clouds and such , I'm a horrible driver, I know eventually I'll need to drive that's why I have a car paid for with minimal miles parked away and not spending car necessities money, if on date I would drink at least one shot and then not worry about a d.u.i. or worse, and I never have to be D.D.
Lol, it's a lifestyle really.

But yea, I think maybe she didn't mean it negatively. ..just curious as to why just like you guys
 

RangerMIke

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Best response would be...
"If you are cold, there are other ways to warm you up." and "So... you want to 'ride' in my car... I guess my back seat is big enough."

Joke around and make it sexual.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LL: I'll think about it I need to talk to the car about that first
HB: huh?
LL: My car isn't really social and if it doesn't like you it misbehaves. I need to make sure I like you (sarcastic grin or emoj or lol)
HB: haha very funny you better like me
LL: We will see how it goes..
 

El Payaso

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logicallefty gave a good response. C0cky and funny. Either that or no response. You act like it doesn't even register on your radar.
 
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