"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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how do you deal with bad memories

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Sometimes, even though I try not to, I think about times in the past when I've been bullied and/or laughed at. Whenever I think of these times it makes me feel angry and inadequate. Have any of you had similar experiences? If so, how have you dealt with it? Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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**** I stay high, but I really dont have memories of being bullied or made fun of. **** that I got good memories of of giving people hell when I was in high school :). I do feel bad but I was young so what the ****... Stop being a hoe man, you let people bully you when you were younger now 5 years later your sitting around crying about it. Nothing has changed from then to now has it? Get some self respect.
 
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What do you mean I haven't changed? Being a bully yourself you don't even know about my situation, i acutally have changed and when people try to bully me these days i don't let them mess with me. Don't get me wrong I appreciate when people give me advice but all you're doing is insulting me more and saying "get self respect" which i already have. Im just saying i feel embarassed when i think about those experiences in the past, why does that mean i'm the same as i was back then?
 

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Because your still ****ing crying about it. What is in the past is in the past, you should focus on the future.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You got a point taiwan... people come here and give some bull **** answer or insult, just to bost their post count or whatever.

Anyways, I don't even think about the past. I mean it probably would bring anyone down. Live in the moment. If you start to think about the past, then try to think of something else quick. Get your mind off it.

Or

You can put it this way. YOU SHOULD BE GLAD AT LOOKING AT YOUR PAST. Why? Because you see how much you've accomplished by getting to where you are. Just laugh it off. They were making fun of you back then, BUT WHOS GETTING THE LADIES?:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: You should be laughing at them.

Late Chulo
 

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Dale Carnegie says to live in day tight compartments, u no like if the titanic had been built with compartement it wouldn;t have sunk. The past should always be kept in mind, so u don;t make the same dumb mistakes, but it can;t own u. Zen Buddhism has a lot about living in the moment check out a book on that. Work on thinking positively, Realize your past doesn;t equal your future. Only your present = your future. BTW i used to get picked on all the time, and i still do in my AE class ya no, but these are really small ppl and jerks. Why let the jerks win? Then ur letting them own ur life. Good luck bro
 

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if you have totally had enough of it , then when you have a bad memory about it say the following to yourself...

"FEK THOSE FEKKING FEKKERS!"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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