"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how do you deal with bad memories

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Sometimes, even though I try not to, I think about times in the past when I've been bullied and/or laughed at. Whenever I think of these times it makes me feel angry and inadequate. Have any of you had similar experiences? If so, how have you dealt with it? Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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**** I stay high, but I really dont have memories of being bullied or made fun of. **** that I got good memories of of giving people hell when I was in high school :). I do feel bad but I was young so what the ****... Stop being a hoe man, you let people bully you when you were younger now 5 years later your sitting around crying about it. Nothing has changed from then to now has it? Get some self respect.
 
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What do you mean I haven't changed? Being a bully yourself you don't even know about my situation, i acutally have changed and when people try to bully me these days i don't let them mess with me. Don't get me wrong I appreciate when people give me advice but all you're doing is insulting me more and saying "get self respect" which i already have. Im just saying i feel embarassed when i think about those experiences in the past, why does that mean i'm the same as i was back then?
 

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Because your still ****ing crying about it. What is in the past is in the past, you should focus on the future.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You got a point taiwan... people come here and give some bull **** answer or insult, just to bost their post count or whatever.

Anyways, I don't even think about the past. I mean it probably would bring anyone down. Live in the moment. If you start to think about the past, then try to think of something else quick. Get your mind off it.

Or

You can put it this way. YOU SHOULD BE GLAD AT LOOKING AT YOUR PAST. Why? Because you see how much you've accomplished by getting to where you are. Just laugh it off. They were making fun of you back then, BUT WHOS GETTING THE LADIES?:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: You should be laughing at them.

Late Chulo
 

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Dale Carnegie says to live in day tight compartments, u no like if the titanic had been built with compartement it wouldn;t have sunk. The past should always be kept in mind, so u don;t make the same dumb mistakes, but it can;t own u. Zen Buddhism has a lot about living in the moment check out a book on that. Work on thinking positively, Realize your past doesn;t equal your future. Only your present = your future. BTW i used to get picked on all the time, and i still do in my AE class ya no, but these are really small ppl and jerks. Why let the jerks win? Then ur letting them own ur life. Good luck bro
 

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if you have totally had enough of it , then when you have a bad memory about it say the following to yourself...

"FEK THOSE FEKKING FEKKERS!"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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