"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How do you deal with a friend's ex?

BannedGod

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I could pretty much easily bang her, but she's my friend's ex... Not an especially close friend, but still a friend. Now he doesn't want me to chill with her because he's scared that I'll ditch him for her (as in he's scared eventually I'd choose her over him as a friend) and I was supposed to see her next Friday, he asked me to cancel it AND not tell her he asked me to cancel. What would you guys do?

Should I say **** off to the girl, or go for it and make sure he doesn't find out? (doesn't sound right, but it is easy sex after all)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Warrior74

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The more important question is...why are you trying to pick up your boy's left overs instead of going out and getting your own? It's just lazy and you know it. You already feel comfortable with this girl...it takes all the work out of going out and meeting new chics.

If he's a friend, you don't date his ex's especially without his go ahead, that's my personal rule and it has served me well.
 

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Warrior74 said:
The more important question is...why are you trying to pick up your boy's left overs instead of going out and getting your own? It's just lazy and you know it. You already feel comfortable with this girl...it takes all the work out of going out and meeting new chics.

If he's a friend, you don't date his ex's especially without his go ahead, that's my personal rule and it has served me well.
Yeah I'm just lazy I guess, but you're right and I know you are... The problem is I almost get along better with her than with him, we have the same type of personalities... Even if I'm not pursuing sex
 

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Warrior74 said:
The more important question is...why are you trying to pick up your boy's left overs instead of going out and getting your own? It's just lazy and you know it. You already feel comfortable with this girl...it takes all the work out of going out and meeting new chics.

If he's a friend, you don't date his ex's especially without his go ahead, that's my personal rule and it has served me well.
Man, I like you Warrior, but I can see your bro before hoes mentality here, his friend seems a little insecure. She does not belong to the friend and if said friend has no more emotional attachments to her... she is fair game.

As long as friend is not pining over him and she did not cause damage (cheating, abusive) Do what you want to do. Some may disagree with me and think, "you wanna borrow my mircowave for those left overs." I say, sometimes the leftovers taste better.

Just depends on the history of your friendship and their past relationship. I have dated a friend's ex one time, but he first dated one of mine first. Not that it makes right.
 

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The friend is done with her. Shes fair game. The friend is a wuss for objecting. You like her, go for it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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He's worried about you spending more time with her than HIM and he's not a close friend? sounds like a woman's conversation[except women will steal their best girls BF.] I'd say if it's just a guy you know and hang with a little bit,go for it. IF it's a best,close friend-let it be. I mean, I know hundreds of guys-if I can't date any of their ex girlfriends, I'd need to start looking at underage/illegal. But then, they may have dated a sons friends,so I can't date them either?

Pick a line and never cross it.BUT just because they dated before isn't it.
 

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Warrior is right over all...

Though since it sounds like this friend of yours doesn't much matter to you, you might as well end that friendship and knock it out with his ex.

In these situations it always comes down to who is more important to have in your life.

Your friend or his leftovers.
 

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it is always an annoying siutation when your friend is a total AFC and has left you an open goal with a girl he messed up on... but he'd get angry/bitter if you made a move on her....
 

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The way I see it is this. Y'all seem to speak with this mindset of not putting so much stock into one girl when there are so many others out there. With that in mind, what's so special about this one girl that you can't find with another girl? If my girlfriend broke up with me and then ended up with one of my friends not too far down the road, I'd wonder if this so-called friend had been trying to get with her behind my back while I was still in a relationship.
 

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Ditch that chick and get your own unless your relationship with your friend is unimportant to you. Heck, who are we kidding, we all know you'll end up "hooking" up with this fallen off fruit chick now or later. Get your own girl and stop pick fallen fruits from the bottom of of th tree.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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