"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you deal with a friend's ex?

BannedGod

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I could pretty much easily bang her, but she's my friend's ex... Not an especially close friend, but still a friend. Now he doesn't want me to chill with her because he's scared that I'll ditch him for her (as in he's scared eventually I'd choose her over him as a friend) and I was supposed to see her next Friday, he asked me to cancel it AND not tell her he asked me to cancel. What would you guys do?

Should I say **** off to the girl, or go for it and make sure he doesn't find out? (doesn't sound right, but it is easy sex after all)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The more important question is...why are you trying to pick up your boy's left overs instead of going out and getting your own? It's just lazy and you know it. You already feel comfortable with this girl...it takes all the work out of going out and meeting new chics.

If he's a friend, you don't date his ex's especially without his go ahead, that's my personal rule and it has served me well.
 

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Warrior74 said:
The more important question is...why are you trying to pick up your boy's left overs instead of going out and getting your own? It's just lazy and you know it. You already feel comfortable with this girl...it takes all the work out of going out and meeting new chics.

If he's a friend, you don't date his ex's especially without his go ahead, that's my personal rule and it has served me well.
Yeah I'm just lazy I guess, but you're right and I know you are... The problem is I almost get along better with her than with him, we have the same type of personalities... Even if I'm not pursuing sex
 

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Warrior74 said:
The more important question is...why are you trying to pick up your boy's left overs instead of going out and getting your own? It's just lazy and you know it. You already feel comfortable with this girl...it takes all the work out of going out and meeting new chics.

If he's a friend, you don't date his ex's especially without his go ahead, that's my personal rule and it has served me well.
Man, I like you Warrior, but I can see your bro before hoes mentality here, his friend seems a little insecure. She does not belong to the friend and if said friend has no more emotional attachments to her... she is fair game.

As long as friend is not pining over him and she did not cause damage (cheating, abusive) Do what you want to do. Some may disagree with me and think, "you wanna borrow my mircowave for those left overs." I say, sometimes the leftovers taste better.

Just depends on the history of your friendship and their past relationship. I have dated a friend's ex one time, but he first dated one of mine first. Not that it makes right.
 

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The friend is done with her. Shes fair game. The friend is a wuss for objecting. You like her, go for it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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He's worried about you spending more time with her than HIM and he's not a close friend? sounds like a woman's conversation[except women will steal their best girls BF.] I'd say if it's just a guy you know and hang with a little bit,go for it. IF it's a best,close friend-let it be. I mean, I know hundreds of guys-if I can't date any of their ex girlfriends, I'd need to start looking at underage/illegal. But then, they may have dated a sons friends,so I can't date them either?

Pick a line and never cross it.BUT just because they dated before isn't it.
 

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Warrior is right over all...

Though since it sounds like this friend of yours doesn't much matter to you, you might as well end that friendship and knock it out with his ex.

In these situations it always comes down to who is more important to have in your life.

Your friend or his leftovers.
 

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it is always an annoying siutation when your friend is a total AFC and has left you an open goal with a girl he messed up on... but he'd get angry/bitter if you made a move on her....
 

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The way I see it is this. Y'all seem to speak with this mindset of not putting so much stock into one girl when there are so many others out there. With that in mind, what's so special about this one girl that you can't find with another girl? If my girlfriend broke up with me and then ended up with one of my friends not too far down the road, I'd wonder if this so-called friend had been trying to get with her behind my back while I was still in a relationship.
 

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Ditch that chick and get your own unless your relationship with your friend is unimportant to you. Heck, who are we kidding, we all know you'll end up "hooking" up with this fallen off fruit chick now or later. Get your own girl and stop pick fallen fruits from the bottom of of th tree.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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