How do you cure neediness?

[Gamisch]

Fair enough, I get your point.

I’m not saying massage therapy or AI replaces women. Obviously it doesn’t. My point is just that if a guy is touch-starved, isolated, or under a lot of stress, he can start putting way too much weight on the first woman who gives him attention.

A normal massage once in a while can help take some of that touch-starved edge off. AI/chat can take some of the loneliness edge off too, as long as a guy doesn’t confuse it with real life.

Having women in your life is the better answer. But if a guy isn’t there yet, he still needs something to keep himself from acting desperate when an opportunity actually shows up.

AI is NOT gonna be that.

I'd rather see a prosti before falling in that kinda dark pit. And yes a prosti isnt more than a temporary bandit too. But even a ONS every now and then won't teach a man anything about women( arguably about getting them tho).

The basics remain undefeated; get your money body and funny up and you might get lucky...

 

[corrector]

AI is NOT gonna be that.

I'd rather see a prosti before falling in that kinda dark pit. And yes a prosti isnt more than a temporary bandit too. But even a ONS every now and then won't teach a man anything about women( arguably about getting them tho).

The basics remain undefeated; get your money body and funny up and you might get lucky...

Interesting. This reminds me of this scene in Bladerunner 2049.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Lack of options also is a major one.

When you lack options, every option you have becomes much more important than it should be.

 

[Mike32ct]

You have to accept that you can’t force it. You either “click” or you don’t.

Being needy or clingy is trying to force a connection with a chick that might be weak/marginal or possibly nonexistent.

The other guy who has the chick you like… Most likely, he didn’t try too hard to get her.

 

[Gamisch]

You have to accept that you can’t force it. You either “click” or you don’t.

Being needy or clingy is trying to force a connection with a chick that might be weak/marginal or possibly nonexistent.

The other guy who has the chick you like… Most likely, he didn’t try too hard to get her.

It's hard not to be needy around a stunning woman.

Personally I go by less is more whenever I sense that I get needy.

It's like any other skill we learn; I apply then basics when I feel I like a woman too much;
- dont double text
- let her take the initiative
- be bold but know when to step back
- accept that there will be other bulls in the ring
- its just my turn, soon it will be his turn
- im the prize, she is a byproduct/ testimony of my awesomeness

 

[Bible_Belt]

Get a dog.

 

[RangerMIke]

There is a difference between want and need. You might 'want' a particular woman, but you don't really 'need' to have that particular woman.

Your needs can be met but others. Neediness is absence of emotional self-control. You might crave and want a big greasy cheeseburger and fries, but really you just need to eat... and a salad with grilled chicken will meet your needs and is better for you.

It's all about emotional self-control. The best way to get emotional self-control is to lead a disciplined life with things other than women. Make a budget and stick with it... develop healthy eating habits and stick with it.... get into a workout routine and stick with it. Eventually being disciplined with your everyday living will reset your thinking.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

The cure for neediness is: Volume / abundance.

If you are managing 3-6 women in your rotation....you don't have the time to be needy.

But when you only have one every blue moon, you might develope a mindset of scarcity...and with scarcity comes neediness.

The problem is, guys get one chick and think, "I got one, I'm good. I can chill now".

That is still a scarcity mindset...because you are so glad that you finally got one, that you cling on to her (neediness) as if your life depends on it.

Instead of thinking "I got one, and by the end of the week, I'll have two".

That's the difference between a mindset of scarcity, and abundance.

 

[sevbucmash]

One guy is 23, the other is 35. Both are very needy

Beta. Not leaders. In need of a leader.

this stomps their efforts to successfully attract and have a woman by their side

Women are naturally repelled by betas, unless they have a lot of money.

you actually know what you want and what you will not tolerate.

Alpha! That is definitely alpha behavior. It attracts women.

abundance of options

Abundance mindset comes from being alpha. It's natural.

cure for neediness

Cure is adopting alpha traits. I suggest starting by watching AMS videos from before he become gentleman, stat watching oldest videos first. Go to his videos section and arrange by oldest. https://www.youtube.com/@alpha_male_s/videos

Here is his first video.

Imitation in nature is natural. However, trying to imitate "PUA Techniques", alpha behaviors, or other men's styles is fundamentally flawed. External copying leads to dependence, anxiety, and fake confidence -- real masculinity comes from internal development. If you imitate it means nature is signaling to you "You don't have this traite yet -- develop it." Imitation is beginner stage.

I'm giving these videos as not a watch and you are cured, instead it is to break down your ideas and inspire you to develop your own masculinity. Your own confidence. Your own style. Your own way of leading.

Simply watching won't help. One must break down and rebuild.