"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you convert between two personas??

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SoSuaveDude

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Okay, this has been blowing my mind for a long while now.

If you hold a career where professionalism is vital, and you also have many female co-workers, you must retain your "primal urges" to be conservative, harmless, non-flirtive, and downright "nice" at times. This isn't too bad considering one should never poop where he eats.

However, when away from the job setting, how do you transfer and make a complete 180 into a bad*** alpha stud? How do you not let the niceness persona conflict with your personal life when it comes to gaming women? Is it even possible?

Would really appreciate an outlook from members with careers full of professional behavior.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LostAndConfused

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Wow. I was actually going to post a thread with the same issue, under a different guise.

It seems like the behaviors that pave the path toward alpha-malehood/success in the career world clash with the behaviors that pave success with women. Now with enough practice and conditioning I could be a jailbird badboy with a harem of hot women, I'm fully capable of it, but is that what I really want?

The only suggestion for a "middle" ground is the idea of Amused Mastery. In fact, this idea seems to be the ONLY one to work for me.

Roissy writes alot about this. But I've started to realize that whenever I try "Amused Mastery" it turns into me seeming like a rascal or having a prankster-type vibe. Strangely enough, girls still find it attractive. I think I'm too young to pull off the Amused Mastery, as I do look very young. Look into it, it really does seem like a middle ground for aspiring DJs.
 
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