"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How do you convert between two personas??

SoSuaveDude

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Okay, this has been blowing my mind for a long while now.

If you hold a career where professionalism is vital, and you also have many female co-workers, you must retain your "primal urges" to be conservative, harmless, non-flirtive, and downright "nice" at times. This isn't too bad considering one should never poop where he eats.

However, when away from the job setting, how do you transfer and make a complete 180 into a bad*** alpha stud? How do you not let the niceness persona conflict with your personal life when it comes to gaming women? Is it even possible?

Would really appreciate an outlook from members with careers full of professional behavior.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LostAndConfused

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Wow. I was actually going to post a thread with the same issue, under a different guise.

It seems like the behaviors that pave the path toward alpha-malehood/success in the career world clash with the behaviors that pave success with women. Now with enough practice and conditioning I could be a jailbird badboy with a harem of hot women, I'm fully capable of it, but is that what I really want?

The only suggestion for a "middle" ground is the idea of Amused Mastery. In fact, this idea seems to be the ONLY one to work for me.

Roissy writes alot about this. But I've started to realize that whenever I try "Amused Mastery" it turns into me seeming like a rascal or having a prankster-type vibe. Strangely enough, girls still find it attractive. I think I'm too young to pull off the Amused Mastery, as I do look very young. Look into it, it really does seem like a middle ground for aspiring DJs.
 
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