Got a first date tomorrow, and I'm fairly excited for it. And I'm pretty sure she's not gonna flake on me (yes, finally) since she called twice in the last 2 days to make sure we were still on (though we did need to postpone our meeting til later in the evening since she had a late meeting come up). But anyways, I don't think I should be too excited when I meet her (I know I'll screw up somehow), so any ideas guys?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How do you calm yourself before a first date?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Comeback Kid
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I can help you out here, as I just went on a first date last week:Kal0051 said:
1.) Be mentally prepared. Know where you're going, what you plan on doing, etc. Think of some good conversation starters. If you try to wing it, you're going to be more nervous.
2,) Get a good night's sleep beforehand. Rest will calm you down.
3.) Before the date, play some music you like that gets you ready to go. I wouldn't recommend something like Metallica or Iron Maiden, but something that puts you in a good mood will do the trick.
4.) Take a deep breath. You're the one in control. No way you can go wrong.
Good luck man, let us know how it goes.
scrouds
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booze. 1, maybe 2 drinks if you're really frayed.
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I agree with comeback.
Just plan some conversation startes. but WING it as well.
dont forget to LISTEN to her. so she knows ur a good listener.and u can continue with the next topic depending on what she says.
try not to be nervous. itll show
Just plan some conversation startes. but WING it as well.
dont forget to LISTEN to her. so she knows ur a good listener.and u can continue with the next topic depending on what she says.
try not to be nervous. itll show
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Bible_Belt
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1.) Be mentally prepared. Know where you're going, what you plan on doing, etc.
Agreed. Not only should you plan, but also make backup plans. When taking a girl out, always have a Plan B in case sh!t happens.
Then of course never talk about any of your preparation while with the girl. It will be obvious when things go well. Always know what you want to do. Women are natural followers.
Agreed. Not only should you plan, but also make backup plans. When taking a girl out, always have a Plan B in case sh!t happens.
Then of course never talk about any of your preparation while with the girl. It will be obvious when things go well. Always know what you want to do. Women are natural followers.