Got a first date tomorrow, and I'm fairly excited for it. And I'm pretty sure she's not gonna flake on me (yes, finally) since she called twice in the last 2 days to make sure we were still on (though we did need to postpone our meeting til later in the evening since she had a late meeting come up). But anyways, I don't think I should be too excited when I meet her (I know I'll screw up somehow), so any ideas guys?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How do you calm yourself before a first date?
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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I can help you out here, as I just went on a first date last week:Kal0051 said:
1.) Be mentally prepared. Know where you're going, what you plan on doing, etc. Think of some good conversation starters. If you try to wing it, you're going to be more nervous.
2,) Get a good night's sleep beforehand. Rest will calm you down.
3.) Before the date, play some music you like that gets you ready to go. I wouldn't recommend something like Metallica or Iron Maiden, but something that puts you in a good mood will do the trick.
4.) Take a deep breath. You're the one in control. No way you can go wrong.
Good luck man, let us know how it goes.
scrouds
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booze. 1, maybe 2 drinks if you're really frayed.
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I agree with comeback.
Just plan some conversation startes. but WING it as well.
dont forget to LISTEN to her. so she knows ur a good listener.and u can continue with the next topic depending on what she says.
try not to be nervous. itll show
Just plan some conversation startes. but WING it as well.
dont forget to LISTEN to her. so she knows ur a good listener.and u can continue with the next topic depending on what she says.
try not to be nervous. itll show
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
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Bible_Belt
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1.) Be mentally prepared. Know where you're going, what you plan on doing, etc.
Agreed. Not only should you plan, but also make backup plans. When taking a girl out, always have a Plan B in case sh!t happens.
Then of course never talk about any of your preparation while with the girl. It will be obvious when things go well. Always know what you want to do. Women are natural followers.
Agreed. Not only should you plan, but also make backup plans. When taking a girl out, always have a Plan B in case sh!t happens.
Then of course never talk about any of your preparation while with the girl. It will be obvious when things go well. Always know what you want to do. Women are natural followers.