Got a first date tomorrow, and I'm fairly excited for it. And I'm pretty sure she's not gonna flake on me (yes, finally) since she called twice in the last 2 days to make sure we were still on (though we did need to postpone our meeting til later in the evening since she had a late meeting come up). But anyways, I don't think I should be too excited when I meet her (I know I'll screw up somehow), so any ideas guys?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How do you calm yourself before a first date?
- Thread starter Kal0051
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The Comeback Kid
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I can help you out here, as I just went on a first date last week:Kal0051 said:
1.) Be mentally prepared. Know where you're going, what you plan on doing, etc. Think of some good conversation starters. If you try to wing it, you're going to be more nervous.
2,) Get a good night's sleep beforehand. Rest will calm you down.
3.) Before the date, play some music you like that gets you ready to go. I wouldn't recommend something like Metallica or Iron Maiden, but something that puts you in a good mood will do the trick.
4.) Take a deep breath. You're the one in control. No way you can go wrong.
Good luck man, let us know how it goes.
scrouds
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booze. 1, maybe 2 drinks if you're really frayed.
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I agree with comeback.
Just plan some conversation startes. but WING it as well.
dont forget to LISTEN to her. so she knows ur a good listener.and u can continue with the next topic depending on what she says.
try not to be nervous. itll show
Just plan some conversation startes. but WING it as well.
dont forget to LISTEN to her. so she knows ur a good listener.and u can continue with the next topic depending on what she says.
try not to be nervous. itll show
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bible_Belt
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1.) Be mentally prepared. Know where you're going, what you plan on doing, etc.
Agreed. Not only should you plan, but also make backup plans. When taking a girl out, always have a Plan B in case sh!t happens.
Then of course never talk about any of your preparation while with the girl. It will be obvious when things go well. Always know what you want to do. Women are natural followers.
Agreed. Not only should you plan, but also make backup plans. When taking a girl out, always have a Plan B in case sh!t happens.
Then of course never talk about any of your preparation while with the girl. It will be obvious when things go well. Always know what you want to do. Women are natural followers.