"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How do you bring up a relationship becoming "exclusive?"

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So while I doubt a real DJ would need to ask a woman, "Will you be my girlfriend?" I am left wondering, suppose a DJ meets w oman he likes, and wants to settle down, how does he go about doing it?

A trick I learned (by doing) recently is to bring up into the conversation something along the lines of:

Me: I like labels in life. I think they help make things a lot more clear.

Any other ideas or suggestions to bring up to a woman you want to be exclusive with her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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INXS said:
So while I doubt a real DJ would need to ask a woman, "Will you be my girlfriend?"

A trick I learned (by doing) recently is to bring up into the conversation something along the lines of:

Me: I like labels in life. I think they help make things a lot more clear.
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Rose by any other name.....

You could always try being a real man by being honest and direct, but then again that might not be alpha, so we might need a new post asking what is an alpha male allowed to do.
 
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I wish you sincre luck in your quest. Trying to push a relationship before the lady does is kind of like fighting gravity. I'm sure she'll give you signs when she wants to make things a bit more serious. If she is not giving you some form of signals, there is a reason.
 
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If you've played it well enough usually they're the ones asking you what is going on.
 
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Rocker said:
If you've played it well enough usually they're the ones asking you what is going on.
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That is ideal, but I don't see a problem with asking her directly.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SELF-MASTERY said:
That is ideal, but I don't see a problem with asking her directly.
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I would have to disagree with that solely on the fact that whoever brings it up first is probably the one who's more concerned about the issue. Since you would be the one basically asking or trying to confirm her approval, you're putting her in power of the situation.
 
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Listen to him and be direct, only pus*ies beat around the bush.
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Right On:up:

If you guys have to worry about abdicating power over every little situation, then you probably don't really have any power to begin with, and everything you do is an act.



Since you would be the one basically asking or trying to confirm her approval, you're putting her in power of the situation.
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Get Real. I like to know where I stand, and sometimes it doesn't have to be said, but if you want to know ASK. Only sissies worry about lossing power.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I think the easiest way to handle it is to let her bring it up.

Yes you can be direct but of course if you time it wrong then she'll drop you like a hot wet noodle.
 
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How lonh have you known the chick??
 
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