"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do you bring up a relationship becoming "exclusive?"

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So while I doubt a real DJ would need to ask a woman, "Will you be my girlfriend?" I am left wondering, suppose a DJ meets w oman he likes, and wants to settle down, how does he go about doing it?

A trick I learned (by doing) recently is to bring up into the conversation something along the lines of:

Me: I like labels in life. I think they help make things a lot more clear.

Any other ideas or suggestions to bring up to a woman you want to be exclusive with her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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INXS said:
So while I doubt a real DJ would need to ask a woman, "Will you be my girlfriend?"

A trick I learned (by doing) recently is to bring up into the conversation something along the lines of:

Me: I like labels in life. I think they help make things a lot more clear.
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Rose by any other name.....

You could always try being a real man by being honest and direct, but then again that might not be alpha, so we might need a new post asking what is an alpha male allowed to do.
 
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I wish you sincre luck in your quest. Trying to push a relationship before the lady does is kind of like fighting gravity. I'm sure she'll give you signs when she wants to make things a bit more serious. If she is not giving you some form of signals, there is a reason.
 
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If you've played it well enough usually they're the ones asking you what is going on.
 
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If you've played it well enough usually they're the ones asking you what is going on.
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That is ideal, but I don't see a problem with asking her directly.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SELF-MASTERY said:
That is ideal, but I don't see a problem with asking her directly.
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I would have to disagree with that solely on the fact that whoever brings it up first is probably the one who's more concerned about the issue. Since you would be the one basically asking or trying to confirm her approval, you're putting her in power of the situation.
 
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Listen to him and be direct, only pus*ies beat around the bush.
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Right On:up:

If you guys have to worry about abdicating power over every little situation, then you probably don't really have any power to begin with, and everything you do is an act.



Since you would be the one basically asking or trying to confirm her approval, you're putting her in power of the situation.
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Get Real. I like to know where I stand, and sometimes it doesn't have to be said, but if you want to know ASK. Only sissies worry about lossing power.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think the easiest way to handle it is to let her bring it up.

Yes you can be direct but of course if you time it wrong then she'll drop you like a hot wet noodle.
 
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How lonh have you known the chick??
 
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