ashman1
Don Juan
How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How do you break out of the " friend " role ?
- Thread starter ashman1
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
ashman1 said:How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
Stop acting like a friend.
In short....don't spend much time talking to her....spend some time away, meet and date other women, and....don't act like a friend when you finally do get in touch with her. lol. It probably won't work though.
ashman1
Don Juan
Why ?
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Because it's really really hard. Read some of the posts by Pook in the bible.ashman1 said:Why ?
are you talking about that chick from the phone conversation you posted?ashman1 said:How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
KontrollerX
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If you are snugly in the friend box dissapear from her life for a year or so and work on improving yourself in whatever way you need improving in be it health wise or style wise and then after that is over if she is not with someone re-connect with her and treat her like a chick you want to get with.
Do not be afraid of your sexuality, ask her out on dates, have her hang around you while doing guy activities.
Most AFC's get stuck in the highly undesireable friend role because they firmly believe friendship before relationship is the safe path to go but like Rollo said friendship creates a kind of comfortableness that is the opposite of sexual tension that approaching a girl as someone you'd like to be with sexually creates.
And you establish the interested in getting with her frame by acting outright like you are interested in getting her by asking her on a date or to come over to your place or somewhere that you can isolate her and have a good time together where you can use some kino and try to make a move on her.
Do not be afraid of your sexuality, ask her out on dates, have her hang around you while doing guy activities.
Most AFC's get stuck in the highly undesireable friend role because they firmly believe friendship before relationship is the safe path to go but like Rollo said friendship creates a kind of comfortableness that is the opposite of sexual tension that approaching a girl as someone you'd like to be with sexually creates.
And you establish the interested in getting with her frame by acting outright like you are interested in getting her by asking her on a date or to come over to your place or somewhere that you can isolate her and have a good time together where you can use some kino and try to make a move on her.
ashman1
Don Juan
Yeah , but others too.EFFORT said:are you talking about that chick from the phone conversation you posted?
If your getting in the friend zone then you need to start practicing. Meaning approaching chicks, getting numbers, hanging out with them, crashing and burning. I suggest you get the foundations from real social dynamics.ashman1 said:Yeah , but others too.