ashman1
Don Juan
How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do you break out of the " friend " role ?
- Thread starter ashman1
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
ashman1 said:How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
Stop acting like a friend.
In short....don't spend much time talking to her....spend some time away, meet and date other women, and....don't act like a friend when you finally do get in touch with her. lol. It probably won't work though.
ashman1
Don Juan
Why ?
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Because it's really really hard. Read some of the posts by Pook in the bible.ashman1 said:Why ?
are you talking about that chick from the phone conversation you posted?ashman1 said:How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
KontrollerX
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If you are snugly in the friend box dissapear from her life for a year or so and work on improving yourself in whatever way you need improving in be it health wise or style wise and then after that is over if she is not with someone re-connect with her and treat her like a chick you want to get with.
Do not be afraid of your sexuality, ask her out on dates, have her hang around you while doing guy activities.
Most AFC's get stuck in the highly undesireable friend role because they firmly believe friendship before relationship is the safe path to go but like Rollo said friendship creates a kind of comfortableness that is the opposite of sexual tension that approaching a girl as someone you'd like to be with sexually creates.
And you establish the interested in getting with her frame by acting outright like you are interested in getting her by asking her on a date or to come over to your place or somewhere that you can isolate her and have a good time together where you can use some kino and try to make a move on her.
Do not be afraid of your sexuality, ask her out on dates, have her hang around you while doing guy activities.
Most AFC's get stuck in the highly undesireable friend role because they firmly believe friendship before relationship is the safe path to go but like Rollo said friendship creates a kind of comfortableness that is the opposite of sexual tension that approaching a girl as someone you'd like to be with sexually creates.
And you establish the interested in getting with her frame by acting outright like you are interested in getting her by asking her on a date or to come over to your place or somewhere that you can isolate her and have a good time together where you can use some kino and try to make a move on her.
ashman1
Don Juan
Yeah , but others too.EFFORT said:are you talking about that chick from the phone conversation you posted?
If your getting in the friend zone then you need to start practicing. Meaning approaching chicks, getting numbers, hanging out with them, crashing and burning. I suggest you get the foundations from real social dynamics.ashman1 said:Yeah , but others too.