ashman1
Don Juan
How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How do you break out of the " friend " role ?
- Thread starter ashman1
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
ashman1 said:How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
Stop acting like a friend.
In short....don't spend much time talking to her....spend some time away, meet and date other women, and....don't act like a friend when you finally do get in touch with her. lol. It probably won't work though.
ashman1
Don Juan
Why ?
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Because it's really really hard. Read some of the posts by Pook in the bible.ashman1 said:Why ?
are you talking about that chick from the phone conversation you posted?ashman1 said:How do you break out of the " friend " role ? :box:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
KontrollerX
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If you are snugly in the friend box dissapear from her life for a year or so and work on improving yourself in whatever way you need improving in be it health wise or style wise and then after that is over if she is not with someone re-connect with her and treat her like a chick you want to get with.
Do not be afraid of your sexuality, ask her out on dates, have her hang around you while doing guy activities.
Most AFC's get stuck in the highly undesireable friend role because they firmly believe friendship before relationship is the safe path to go but like Rollo said friendship creates a kind of comfortableness that is the opposite of sexual tension that approaching a girl as someone you'd like to be with sexually creates.
And you establish the interested in getting with her frame by acting outright like you are interested in getting her by asking her on a date or to come over to your place or somewhere that you can isolate her and have a good time together where you can use some kino and try to make a move on her.
Do not be afraid of your sexuality, ask her out on dates, have her hang around you while doing guy activities.
Most AFC's get stuck in the highly undesireable friend role because they firmly believe friendship before relationship is the safe path to go but like Rollo said friendship creates a kind of comfortableness that is the opposite of sexual tension that approaching a girl as someone you'd like to be with sexually creates.
And you establish the interested in getting with her frame by acting outright like you are interested in getting her by asking her on a date or to come over to your place or somewhere that you can isolate her and have a good time together where you can use some kino and try to make a move on her.
ashman1
Don Juan
Yeah , but others too.EFFORT said:are you talking about that chick from the phone conversation you posted?
If your getting in the friend zone then you need to start practicing. Meaning approaching chicks, getting numbers, hanging out with them, crashing and burning. I suggest you get the foundations from real social dynamics.ashman1 said:Yeah , but others too.