"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you become sexual after not being sexual in the beginning?
- Thread starter iCatch
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DonJoseCantosie
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Metaphysical
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2Pac_Makaveli
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Energizer
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If the sexual attraction and chemistry is there at the beginning, it won't be there through the middle and at the end (obviously). These human traits are natural and cannot be 'faked'.
2Pac_Makaveli
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Energizer
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You can fake being sexual, that's in no doubt, but you cannot fake sexual chemistry, it's either there or it isn't. Sex is more than just being physical, the best sex I've had is when there was a strong sense of sexual chemistry between me and the girl.2Pac_Makaveli said:
2Pac_Makaveli
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i thought i was friend zoned too but one of her friends came up to me last week and was like "you know so and so has a crush on u right?"2Pac_Makaveli said:
i guess she stopped touching me like before because she doesn't think i like her?
SuavePlaya
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That was such a lame excuse dude. Accept the fact you fvcked up on first down. Now you got two more tries before you punt this chick.iCatch said:
Don't listen to the chumps above, (but for Meta and Jose). I used to be one of those guys. KJs.
I just sitting here with a sore nut from getting it sucked a bit too hard the other night (thems the problems you have when you get out off the web) and this mild discomfort got me thinking about the entire PU scene and I'd thought I'd pop in and see whats happening.
Not a lots changed.
Anyhoo...
You ARE always in the game. It doesn't matter how hard you've f*cked up or how long you've known the chick without being sexual. Everyday is a fresh start. Do as Meta says. If not then follow Jose advice.
She wants ya. You want her. Go for it.
JJ
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't get it. Things are never set in stone. People re-evaluate ALL THE TIME.Energizer said:
To the OP: Do it slow. Get comfortable with it and yourself. You can't force it, and you can't fake it. So take it slow and gradual.
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Fortunately in your case, two weeks is nothing. You still have time. Just start being sexual with her.
Canadian Catnip
Senior Don Juan
Instead of sex lets use another topic to get the picture clear. Lets say chess.
So you meet a women and you wonder if she would like to play chess with you? She likes chess and was hoping you would bring it up so she could take out her board and both of you could play.
Some men she is interested in playing chess with and some men she is not. She lets the men bring it up to see where they stand on the whole chess game thing, mainly because if she goes around asking every guy if they like to play chess she could get labeled as a chess master. Besides there are lots of other things to do other than play chess that are equally interesting.
As a guy you HAVE TO let the women know that you have played chess before and will play it again in the future.
Back to sex.
It does not have to be full on sexual comments all the time. She may get the idea that you are sex crazy.
My advice boils down to the following lines. When showing someone your personality, you show them several aspects of who you are. You talk about sports, movies whatever, make a point of sprinkling just a tiny bit of talk about sex in there from time to time.
If she is interested in PLAYING, she will pick up on it and she will know that it is a topic that you are not afraid of.
This is what people mean when they say, be sexual. Occasionally crack a joke that is sexual. Talk about boobs. Tell her you thought someone was sexy then drop the conversation. Things like that. Keep it light and funny.
The most successful guys I have ever seen will always get into sex talk before too long.
Open that topic with her.
I've done this with using puns and sexual jokes. You have to have some value with the lady, or you will come off as a perverted dipsh_t or loser. there will be sort of a "moment of truth" where her response will let you know if she is diggin it. if you get the approval, game on! Sounds like you do have the value, so now you just gotta step up the game.
examples from a chic I am gaming-
she asks me if i noticed her new hair color. at first i gave a boring answer "no, what's different?" then, i went for it and asked her if she dyes it just "on top" with a smirk on my face. she laughs and pinches my cheeks.
her friend says "don't try to **** my friend!" in a semi-serious tone, i reply "she's trying to **** me!" shrugging my shoulders and smirking. she laughs and hits me on the arm.
jokes like this and kino, turn bland conversations into fun and bring out the sexual tension between people.
joe45
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any more examples of the sexual innedo or talk . i love to hear em.hover411 said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.