battle_sheep
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We all know chicks go crazy over dudes who have fun, so how do you do it besides having a killer sense of humor?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How do you become a FUN guy?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Have stories.
"Hey... let me tell you something crazy that happened the other night... blah blah blah"
"hahah no way"
"yeh i couldn't believe it either"
You get the idea. Tease her aswel, be spontaneous - being fun isn't difficult... make sure you are eating correctly and keep your energy levels topped up with red bull
"Hey... let me tell you something crazy that happened the other night... blah blah blah"
"hahah no way"
"yeh i couldn't believe it either"
You get the idea. Tease her aswel, be spontaneous - being fun isn't difficult... make sure you are eating correctly and keep your energy levels topped up with red bull
u need to relaxx...
it needs to come naturally... trying to be fun is not like reading a manual....
just go out and enjoy your life,... do things u enjoy doing and hang out with fun people..
also tease girls and make them smile...
if certain girls still dont find u fun after that then u shouldnt being pursuing them anyway (unless they have amazing tits)... find a girl who likes u for who u are..
it needs to come naturally... trying to be fun is not like reading a manual....
just go out and enjoy your life,... do things u enjoy doing and hang out with fun people..
also tease girls and make them smile...
if certain girls still dont find u fun after that then u shouldnt being pursuing them anyway (unless they have amazing tits)... find a girl who likes u for who u are..
battle_sheep said:
simple-dont take yourself so seriously man-youre probably one of those uptight dudes right? loosen up-watch something funny-laugh-this will help get you loose-I think we all can be potential comedians if we can just let go-
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
You do the things that make you happy.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Duffdog said:
thats cool,BUT, I would add that he needs to watch some FUNNY stand up comedians-the reason why the richard pryors, george carlins, robin williams, etc., is so funny because they'd bit$h about their problems with themselves and the world around them EFFECTIVELY-if you can effectivley present your world concerns in a light, funny way then youre good-but one thing about being funny you must know that it does involve being an ******* a bit and you may not be ready for all that because you all worried about what she thinks of you-you will start being funny by stop givin a sh$t so much about what a girl or people for that matter think about you.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
Most of the answers above were solid. Being in the moment helps. Also Doing things that makes you happy aka SELF AMUSING is another great way.
So , you have to focus on the NOW , on the moment and let go all the voices inside your had and say FUCK OFF to all the external things and focus on doing things that amuse you.
So , you have to focus on the NOW , on the moment and let go all the voices inside your had and say FUCK OFF to all the external things and focus on doing things that amuse you.
Hmmm, I might disagree with you there.Daddy The Pimp said:
Granted, I'm a weird dude, but one thing that I LOVE doing is teasing people. Above and beyond "gentle teasing." If you do things only for self-amusement rather than the amusement of others you might find yourself by yourself. Keep in mind that relating needs two.
To become a fun guy see the world as a fun place.
Look out for the fun things in all situations. All comedians do that. Even at funerals they'll see things in a funny way. Chrildren do it too. They'll laugh at little things you wouldn't see.
Look out for the fun things in all situations. All comedians do that. Even at funerals they'll see things in a funny way. Chrildren do it too. They'll laugh at little things you wouldn't see.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Do this : Listen to all the stupid things people say and do ( and the stupid things you say and do yourself) And repeat the stupid things out loud to your surroundings and laugh/smile about it.
But remember, don`t be the funny guy who takes all the **** all the time. ( Don`t be the clown) Make fun of other people to so that you don`t become this person.
And it is not attractive to make too much fun of yourself. ( This is called low self esteem in other peoples eyes)
Example: The girl are saying to her lady friend: The guy has come to pick us up.
X : Deam, your friend are nice, she are finding a boy for you. ( X laughing)
The girls looks shooked a moment and after a few seconds they start to laugh.
X: One d i c k are to little for you, you need one in each of your holes, ore you never become happy.
The girls are laughing and joking about it. ROFL
The most important mindset you have to have is : Always have fun
: Listen to all the stupid things people say and do ( and the stupid things you say and do yourself) And repeat the stupid things out loud to your surroundings and laugh/smile about it.But remember, don`t be the funny guy who takes all the **** all the time. ( Don`t be the clown) Make fun of other people to so that you don`t become this person.
And it is not attractive to make too much fun of yourself. ( This is called low self esteem in other peoples eyes)
Example: The girl are saying to her lady friend: The guy has come to pick us up.
X : Deam, your friend are nice, she are finding a boy for you. ( X laughing)
The girls looks shooked a moment and after a few seconds they start to laugh.
X: One d i c k are to little for you, you need one in each of your holes, ore you never become happy.
The girls are laughing and joking about it. ROFL
The most important mindset you have to have is : Always have fun
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
Man when self amusing , if you have a strong frame, you can draw people on your reality.When self amusing , dont be the pvssy that does something than looks around for others reactions. That wont work. Instead , keep doing it and until they are drawn to your reality.FairShake said:
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Don't worry about the outcome. The best way is to "give them" and experience with you, and just let loose and let your kalamazo out. Say something outrageous and something they don't here every day, the more creative the better, For example:
(smiling and laughing)
Oh my god, you necklace just blinded me when the sunlight hit it. Why does it have to be so shiny, man you must be a cool girl, but still ouch.
The secret is too be in a naughty state, or you wont be in the zone muahahahaha!
(smiling and laughing)
Oh my god, you necklace just blinded me when the sunlight hit it. Why does it have to be so shiny, man you must be a cool girl, but still ouch.
The secret is too be in a naughty state, or you wont be in the zone muahahahaha!
LonesomeLoser
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What about a guy who has more serious intentions in his dealings with women, such as a lifelong committed relationship? Life isn't one big party. I'm 35, fun is for young people although even when I was young myself, things that others seemed to find "fun" didn't interest me. As far as having stories to tell, I'll bet a lot of those "adventures" that you can laugh about now weren't so much fun when you were going through them. Not very safe anyway. If a guy is looking for a serious lifelong committed relationship, is he really supposed to present a "fun" image to women, when going out and partying and getting drunk and being irresponsible isn't the kind of life he wants for himself and a future wife? When women expect a guy to be "fun" during dating, do they not understand that when the dating phase is over its time to get down to the business of real life (going to work, paying bills, making prudent life decisions)? To me it is just living in a world of pretend to say "we're just going to have a good time and have fun", like that's going to continue after the dating phase is over.
To be a funny guy, simply do and say things that make you laugh, rather than doing things for other's amusement. I find my funniest jokes are ones where I can hardly contain myself from laughing when I say them, and everyone else bursts out laughing because of the fun energy I am creating, even if the joke wasn't that good.
If I said the funniest joke, yet didn't laugh myself and just looked at other people waiting for them to laugh, then it becomes unfunny.
If I said the funniest joke, yet didn't laugh myself and just looked at other people waiting for them to laugh, then it becomes unfunny.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.