"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do you avoid being emotionally attached easily?

Rudy_TubeSteak

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I have been having this problem for a long while. I tend to develop feelings too soon and being emotionally attached to the girl. Once that happens then there is a shift of power. It doesn’t matter if you tell her or not you tend to act on these emotions.

I’ve tried seeing other girls but end up getting attached to them as well lol. And at the end of the day I revert back to my old oneitis. It’s hard to bump in to her without feeling like crap of something back them went wrong or wanting some more action. I should be moving on and letting go but I need ways to solve this. I know this is a human thing but I would like to find a way to just de-sensitise myself from this.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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djtdot

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Oh ya am having the same problem. What I came up with are:

1) Immerse yourself in your work/play/fun whatever. Set aside only say 15-20 min for this girl per day/week whatever. Don't see too much of her.

2) NEVER ever talk too long on msn, aim etc.

3) Always have a backup. This I learnt the hardway.

Anti-Dump and Rollo and others were right all the way. Have lotsa plates.

I have the same problem. Any help appreciated guys.
 

Rudy_TubeSteak

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Hmm i wish i could just have so much fun with my girl without being emotionally attached. Even though Im spinning other plates I still fall into that trap.

I've slept with 3 gals and made out with 30 otheres but still hung up. I've got 3 jobs at the moment but still my mind wanders over girls.
 

Cloudtopsun2100

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my personal add on to the plate theory is just getting thoroughly infatuated with all your plates....example if this is your thinking

denise..wow denise.. shes the one and only.. oh wait shes busy....**** my one and only is flaking.....wait what about jessica.. wow jessica come out...being with jessica is great....damn thats amazing head....jessica is the one and only---....
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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