"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How do you avoid being emotionally attached easily?

Rudy_TubeSteak

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I have been having this problem for a long while. I tend to develop feelings too soon and being emotionally attached to the girl. Once that happens then there is a shift of power. It doesn’t matter if you tell her or not you tend to act on these emotions.

I’ve tried seeing other girls but end up getting attached to them as well lol. And at the end of the day I revert back to my old oneitis. It’s hard to bump in to her without feeling like crap of something back them went wrong or wanting some more action. I should be moving on and letting go but I need ways to solve this. I know this is a human thing but I would like to find a way to just de-sensitise myself from this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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djtdot

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Oh ya am having the same problem. What I came up with are:

1) Immerse yourself in your work/play/fun whatever. Set aside only say 15-20 min for this girl per day/week whatever. Don't see too much of her.

2) NEVER ever talk too long on msn, aim etc.

3) Always have a backup. This I learnt the hardway.

Anti-Dump and Rollo and others were right all the way. Have lotsa plates.

I have the same problem. Any help appreciated guys.
 

Rudy_TubeSteak

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Hmm i wish i could just have so much fun with my girl without being emotionally attached. Even though Im spinning other plates I still fall into that trap.

I've slept with 3 gals and made out with 30 otheres but still hung up. I've got 3 jobs at the moment but still my mind wanders over girls.
 

Cloudtopsun2100

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my personal add on to the plate theory is just getting thoroughly infatuated with all your plates....example if this is your thinking

denise..wow denise.. shes the one and only.. oh wait shes busy....**** my one and only is flaking.....wait what about jessica.. wow jessica come out...being with jessica is great....damn thats amazing head....jessica is the one and only---....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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