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Hi folk. How do you usually approach girls in the club? Do you have any frame? How do you recognize whether her interest is high and she would love to talk with you?
 
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I was really into clubs all last year. I'd say I was there every weekend. The club scene seems like a really good setting to go spit some game and pick up chicks but it's best to go to a club with friends have some drinks and have a good time and remove that thought of "picking up women". I've had lots of success with getting numbers, IG, snapchat at clubs. Have taken a couple back home and smashed. Not as much as I would like to tbh. But that's because I'm very picky. I don't wanna catch a disease ( you don't know where these girls have been ) and don't give me the use a rubber BS LOL cause I want my d1ck sucked lol and the girls look a bit different in the clubs sh1tty lighting than when they come out.

Ok, But I feel like I can post on this thread with confidence cause I been out on the field a lot and have done very well.

#1 Best way to approach and get her info is by dancing with them but you have to have good dance chemistry with her. Its hard to be a sh1tty dancer and expect her to grind on you for more than a song. But the most you want to dance with a chick is a song or 2 then move to another (have fun and dance with different hotter girls) other girls see this and they like it. UNLESS it towards the end of the night and she is showing extremely high interest and you guys are already kissing while dancing. Then at that point ask for her info when you are done dancing then ask her what she's doing after and inv her over to your place. No girl is gonna say " YES " right away unless her IL is at a 10. Most will give a little resistance" um idk" or "I'm with my friend though" and its up to how well you can handle that resistance and make her feel comfortable enough to come over. I try to be persistent but not overly persistent that it looks like i'm thirsty. Some will even say " lets go to dennys instead/ first" at that point I just say " hey well if you're not comfortable I understand but I have your info so we'll get in touch soon".. don't treat that b1tch to dinner if she not giving you any ass. You might ask but how do you know if shes not gonna give you any after you guys eat. Fvck that I dont take that chance. Money is not an issue, I'm just not gonna buy someone food like that idc if she's a fvckn 10.
Women will use you for food and then leave right after with their girls cause theyre never alone at clubs. Thats just me tho. Do w.e you feel is best. But trust me they'll use you without a second thought.

#2 best way is choosing signals.
A girl that is interested in you at a club will look over at you and stare constantly at you and smile. But you have to be quick to this and act quickly if you see shes choosing, grab your balls and ask that chick to dance all I say if I see a b1tch choosing hard, I put my hand out " whassup lets go dance" in a masculine way with a lil smirk on my face. If you wait too long she'll eventually stop choosing. **** if her IL is really high she'll even come up to you and ask you to dance. I've had this happen a good amount of times and from hot women too and they also ask for my info. If she's interested she will also get outta her way to go dance near you so you can make a move and grab her to dance.

#3 just being a dog. ( but you risk looking thirsty)
I'm 26 so I feel like I can get away with this still since im rather young and i look younger than I am. You simply go up to the chicks you find attractive and ask them to dance. Some will say yes some will say no. I've been rejected like this countless times but idc I know I have a better body than 85% of the n1ggas in the club and I look good so. "On to the next" is the type of mentality you need. Some nights you will be more successful than others. Sh1t theres some nights I've danced with over 10 girls got about 7 numbers and others I danced with 3 and got 1 number it just really depends on the night. I've noticed if the club has more men than women they get a little stingier with who they dance with but if there are more Woman than men you have a way better chance of dancing and getting numbers or taking one home.

The most important thing out of all this is to not to make banging a chick the goal of the night. I go to clubs because I like having drinks and I LOVE to dance. Sometimes I dance with girls and dont even ask them their info unless shes bomb af. I'm just there to have a good time.

Long but hope this helps. Again be careful with these girls. You don't wanna be in the clinic testing for STDs. Have fun bro, peace.
 
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My friend was wearing a tank top muscle shirt yesterday and girls approached him. Whenever he opened it was pretty cheesy but hooked 100% of the time because the girls were already checking him out and hovering around us. And he’s only 5’7.
 

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Hi folk. How do you usually approach girls in the club? Do you have any frame? How do you recognize whether her interest is high and she would love to talk with you?
I don't do it anymore, I try to limit drinking to minimum (like only parties I consider drinking worth the hangover), I cut out smoking some time ago and I 420 only with close friends like once per two months.

I am 35, intellectual type - I prefer online dating nowadays and I am not after 'score' anymore, simply because I can get the vibe of the girl looking at her profile and talking with her. I hate SJW's or feminist types. My social circle is full of married couples or LTR couples so it's still better than waste my time hunting ONS chicks - I look young enough to go clubbing but I dc anymore - I use this time either for hobbies, resting or learning.
 

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I was really into clubs all last year. I'd say I was there every weekend. The club scene seems like a really good setting to go spit some game and pick up chicks but it's best to go to a club with friends have some drinks and have a good time and remove that thought of "picking up women". I've had lots of success with getting numbers, IG, snapchat at clubs. Have taken a couple back home and smashed. Not as much as I would like to tbh. But that's because I'm very picky. I don't wanna catch a disease ( you don't know where these girls have been ) and don't give me the use a rubber BS LOL cause I want my d1ck sucked lol and the girls look a bit different in the clubs sh1tty lighting than when they come out.

Ok, But I feel like I can post on this thread with confidence cause I been out on the field a lot and have done very well.

#1 Best way to approach and get her info is by dancing with them but you have to have good dance chemistry with her. Its hard to be a sh1tty dancer and expect her to grind on you for more than a song. But the most you want to dance with a chick is a song or 2 then move to another (have fun and dance with different hotter girls) other girls see this and they like it. UNLESS it towards the end of the night and she is showing extremely high interest and you guys are already kissing while dancing. Then at that point ask for her info when you are done dancing then ask her what she's doing after and inv her over to your place. No girl is gonna say " YES " right away unless her IL is at a 10. Most will give a little resistance" um idk" or "I'm with my friend though" and its up to how well you can handle that resistance and make her feel comfortable enough to come over. I try to be persistent but not overly persistent that it looks like i'm thirsty. Some will even say " lets go to dennys instead/ first" at that point I just say " hey well if you're not comfortable I understand but I have your info so we'll get in touch soon".. don't treat that b1tch to dinner if she not giving you any ass. You might ask but how do you know if shes not gonna give you any after you guys eat. Fvck that I dont take that chance. Money is not an issue, I'm just not gonna buy someone food like that idc if she's a fvckn 10.
Women will use you for food and then leave right after with their girls cause theyre never alone at clubs. Thats just me tho. Do w.e you feel is best. But trust me they'll use you without a second thought.

#2 best way is choosing signals.
A girl that is interested in you at a club will look over at you and stare constantly at you and smile. But you have to be quick to this and act quickly if you see shes choosing, grab your balls and ask that chick to dance all I say if I see a b1tch choosing hard, I put my hand out " whassup lets go dance" in a masculine way with a lil smirk on my face. If you wait too long she'll eventually stop choosing. **** if her IL is really high she'll even come up to you and ask you to dance. I've had this happen a good amount of times and from hot women too and they also ask for my info. If she's interested she will also get outta her way to go dance near you so you can make a move and grab her to dance.

#3 just being a dog. ( but you risk looking thirsty)
I'm 26 so I feel like I can get away with this still since im rather young and i look younger than I am. You simply go up to the chicks you find attractive and ask them to dance. Some will say yes some will say no. I've been rejected like this countless times but idc I know I have a better body than 85% of the n1ggas in the club and I look good so. "On to the next" is the type of mentality you need. Some nights you will be more successful than others. Sh1t theres some nights I've danced with over 10 girls got about 7 numbers and others I danced with 3 and got 1 number it just really depends on the night. I've noticed if the club has more men than women they get a little stingier with who they dance with but if there are more Woman than men you have a way better chance of dancing and getting numbers or taking one home.

The most important thing out of all this is to not to make banging a chick the goal of the night. I go to clubs because I like having drinks and I LOVE to dance. Sometimes I dance with girls and dont even ask them their info unless shes bomb af. I'm just there to have a good time.

Long but hope this helps. Again be careful with these girls. You don't wanna be in the clinic testing for STDs. Have fun bro, peace.
Damn man... I have been thinking about that marathon you have done for the same reasons. My problem that I never loved to dance and never enjoyed clubs until I moved to a different country. So, I kinda at the early stage of my game. Funny enough even when I was standing and watching people around some chicks were approaching me (I am 6'0 and ripped). But damn man I still kinda have these moments when you had an eye contact with a hot chick but cause you are too slow other dude approaches her. But I believe the more you go and approach girls the more you will be in that "On to the next" mindset.
 

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I don't do it anymore, I try to limit drinking to minimum (like only parties I consider drinking worth the hangover), I cut out smoking some time ago and I 420 only with close friends like once per two months.

I am 35, intellectual type - I prefer online dating nowadays and I am not after 'score' anymore, simply because I can get the vibe of the girl looking at her profile and talking with her. I hate SJW's or feminist types. My social circle is full of married couples or LTR couples so it's still better than waste my time hunting ONS chicks - I look young enough to go clubbing but I dc anymore - I use this time either for hobbies, resting or learning.
I feel you man. Personally I am sick of online dating stuff. It is like a casino, you never know whether the girl will be good as on the photos. And I also recall from Rational Male, where Rollo calls it a buffer which protects us from been rejected in real life. But at least you learn something from each rejection.
 

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Damn man... I have been thinking about that marathon you have done for the same reasons. My problem that I never loved to dance and never enjoyed clubs until I moved to a different country. So, I kinda at the early stage of my game. Funny enough even when I was standing and watching people around some chicks were approaching me (I am 6'0 and ripped). But damn man I still kinda have these moments when you had an eye contact with a hot chick but cause you are too slow other dude approaches her. But I believe the more you go and approach girls the more you will be in that "On to the next" mindset.
You don't have to go to a club to dance. But from personal experience it's way more fun and chicks love a dude that can let go and have fun.
Definitely, rejection should never be a problem for you. Always have the " on to the next " mindset. Who cares if they reject you. You'll probably never see them again in your life anyway.
 

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I feel you man. Personally I am sick of online dating stuff. It is like a casino, you never know whether the girl will be good as on the photos. And I also recall from Rational Male, where Rollo calls it a buffer which protects us from been rejected in real life. But at least you learn something from each rejection.
I have most success in 27-31 bracket, If you are handsome you can pick up good looking, 7-8 years younger female. You need godly amount of SMV & very solid texting game + car to pull younger chicks via dating app.

Also, it's really better to write first. I have noticed that females that write you first 1/3 of time just want to play with you. It's especially characteristic with the younger females.

Females in 32-35 bracket almost exclusively want either:
a) work-horse (tall; not too bright to manipulate him; earning decent money; car to lift her); or
b) they want young (21+) phucktoy. They write "Only serious relationships" then they do everything they have done until this point. Nothing changes for them.
 

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Damn man... I have been thinking about that marathon you have done for the same reasons. My problem that I never loved to dance and never enjoyed clubs until I moved to a different country. So, I kinda at the early stage of my game. Funny enough even when I was standing and watching people around some chicks were approaching me (I am 6'0 and ripped). But damn man I still kinda have these moments when you had an eye contact with a hot chick but cause you are too slow other dude approaches her. But I believe the more you go and approach girls the more you will be in that "On to the next" mindset.
Which country?
I know you're not in America because all the clubs here are shut down.
 

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I usually just hang out. But not in a corner. Usually solo as my friends are scrubs. I wait for: either a girl to approach, a solid IOI, or a girl that hot enough to motivate me to initiate. I usually start by talking about our drinks. If a girl is OK with letting me sip her drink & she sips mine...;). I’m neither tall nor ripped. I dress OK. I’m not sure what ‘frame’ is. I’m pretty intuitive. I just recognize IOI’s. I don’t really analyze that.
 

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There's not going to be much nightclub game until 2022 with COVID and the accompanying psychological fear in the mating marketplace. It might give you some time for reflection.

Nightclubs are loud. There's going to be almost no conversation. I agree with the earlier poster who said tall, ripped, and well dressed. Whereas peacocking might work in a bar environment with a low to medium noise level where it is possible to have a conversation, peacocking in a club might not make much a difference.

If you know country dance, country music venues can get you some solid poontang, especially compared to hip hop/top 40 playing venues. If you like Latinas, get good at salsa dancing. You might be able to use this break in the action to learn either two step or salsa on YouTube and be able to impress women once large gatherings are permitted again. Keep doing YouTube home workouts to keep fit too because you'll need that once the pandemic burns out.
 

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Higher energy = Value = Intrest. In the nighclub people are there to have fun, you need to become from the frame on being the life of the party. Not so easy to pull off, this is why its easier to pull from cozy places, where just a big smile and positive attitude might change the whole atmosphere.
 
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