Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How do you apologize without coming across as beta?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I_was_born_a_PIMP
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TheMonkeyKing
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The simple answer: you don't apologise. For anything.
....May be only under very extreme circumstances like if you run over her dog, or, I dunno, accidentally f*ck her sister, or some such....
Tictac
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'Mistakes were made' is a waste of air.
Never apologizing for anything ever is arrogant.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's not beta to apologise. It's a sign of great strength if done assertively and with intent. It's very beta if it's to make the other person feel better.
Being an alpha is not synonymous with being an @sshole.
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u always seem to be douchy to these girls...and its working.
don't apologize unless ur in front of a court judge....these girls obviously made u resort to u being less than gentlemanly with them.
I think ur not as douchy as they make u feel. They always come back ur way so...if u want...just stop bringing down the thunder hammer on them.
Its like this....i tell my chicks...dont apologize to me for ur rudeness, crankyness, bad day...just don't behave like that when I'm around. That silences them and they start behaving lady like.