"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How do you apologize without coming across as beta?
- Thread starter El Payaso
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I_was_born_a_PIMP
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TheMonkeyKing
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The simple answer: you don't apologise. For anything.
....May be only under very extreme circumstances like if you run over her dog, or, I dunno, accidentally f*ck her sister, or some such....
Tictac
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'Mistakes were made' is a waste of air.
Never apologizing for anything ever is arrogant.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It's not beta to apologise. It's a sign of great strength if done assertively and with intent. It's very beta if it's to make the other person feel better.
Being an alpha is not synonymous with being an @sshole.
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u always seem to be douchy to these girls...and its working.
don't apologize unless ur in front of a court judge....these girls obviously made u resort to u being less than gentlemanly with them.
I think ur not as douchy as they make u feel. They always come back ur way so...if u want...just stop bringing down the thunder hammer on them.
Its like this....i tell my chicks...dont apologize to me for ur rudeness, crankyness, bad day...just don't behave like that when I'm around. That silences them and they start behaving lady like.