"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you answer "Why are you so busy? What are you doing?"

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I'm trying to detach myself from a oneitis and haven't started yet but will have other girls to go on dates with soon. I would like to hook up w/ her if this happens to make her jealous and come back to me, but first how to answer this question smoothly?

Oneitis has been wondering lately if I've been mad at her, and why I stopped calling her.

How do you men tell them that you're busy?
Especially if they want to know what you've been doing, etc?

I don't think I can just keep saying

"I'm just busy."
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
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LOL.. when are you going to write that book Francisco?
 
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Bible_Belt said:
Hanging out with the guys, having a martial arts class, working out, doing family stuff
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Maybe he should tell them the TRUTH. And if the truth SUCKS...then maybe he should focus on improving his life FIRST...before even attempting to date a woman.

Personally...if he has Oneitis...the best thing he can do is AVOID her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Keep it vague. I'm busy with work. Busy with personal stuff. Just busy. You don't need to explain, especially if your goal is to make her jealous (which I don't advise, but understand). Not knowing the details will make her think about it more.
 
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How about you just drop her and not worry about it?

You're playing games so she can come back to you?

Weak.
 
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Hanging out with the guys, having a martial arts class, working out, doing family stuff

Latinoman said:
Maybe he should tell them the TRUTH. And if the truth SUCKS...then maybe he should focus on improving his life FIRST...before even attempting to date a woman.

Personally...if he has Oneitis...the best thing he can do is AVOID her.
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You're right. That's what I tell one girl when I'm off with another girl, which is what he should be doing.
 
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Come on guys the goal of a text message is to make her laugh and raise her interest level. Just sending "I'm busy" is boring as hell. Look at what Francisco posted

Francisco d'Anconia said:
"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
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Now that is PIMP and it makes her laugh and she STILL doesn't know what we are doing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well some of the excuses - sorry - causes might be too much work, too much trivia, too many priorities, too many emails, too many meetings too much of everything!
 
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It may help to know why she's asking.
 
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