"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do you answer "Why are you so busy? What are you doing?"

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I'm trying to detach myself from a oneitis and haven't started yet but will have other girls to go on dates with soon. I would like to hook up w/ her if this happens to make her jealous and come back to me, but first how to answer this question smoothly?

Oneitis has been wondering lately if I've been mad at her, and why I stopped calling her.

How do you men tell them that you're busy?
Especially if they want to know what you've been doing, etc?

I don't think I can just keep saying

"I'm just busy."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
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LOL.. when are you going to write that book Francisco?
 
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Bible_Belt said:
Hanging out with the guys, having a martial arts class, working out, doing family stuff
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Maybe he should tell them the TRUTH. And if the truth SUCKS...then maybe he should focus on improving his life FIRST...before even attempting to date a woman.

Personally...if he has Oneitis...the best thing he can do is AVOID her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Keep it vague. I'm busy with work. Busy with personal stuff. Just busy. You don't need to explain, especially if your goal is to make her jealous (which I don't advise, but understand). Not knowing the details will make her think about it more.
 
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How about you just drop her and not worry about it?

You're playing games so she can come back to you?

Weak.
 
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Hanging out with the guys, having a martial arts class, working out, doing family stuff

Latinoman said:
Maybe he should tell them the TRUTH. And if the truth SUCKS...then maybe he should focus on improving his life FIRST...before even attempting to date a woman.

Personally...if he has Oneitis...the best thing he can do is AVOID her.
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You're right. That's what I tell one girl when I'm off with another girl, which is what he should be doing.
 
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Come on guys the goal of a text message is to make her laugh and raise her interest level. Just sending "I'm busy" is boring as hell. Look at what Francisco posted

Francisco d'Anconia said:
"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
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Now that is PIMP and it makes her laugh and she STILL doesn't know what we are doing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well some of the excuses - sorry - causes might be too much work, too much trivia, too many priorities, too many emails, too many meetings too much of everything!
 
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It may help to know why she's asking.
 
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