"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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How do you answer "Why are you so busy? What are you doing?"

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I'm trying to detach myself from a oneitis and haven't started yet but will have other girls to go on dates with soon. I would like to hook up w/ her if this happens to make her jealous and come back to me, but first how to answer this question smoothly?

Oneitis has been wondering lately if I've been mad at her, and why I stopped calling her.

How do you men tell them that you're busy?
Especially if they want to know what you've been doing, etc?

I don't think I can just keep saying

"I'm just busy."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
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LOL.. when are you going to write that book Francisco?
 
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Bible_Belt said:
Hanging out with the guys, having a martial arts class, working out, doing family stuff
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Maybe he should tell them the TRUTH. And if the truth SUCKS...then maybe he should focus on improving his life FIRST...before even attempting to date a woman.

Personally...if he has Oneitis...the best thing he can do is AVOID her.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Keep it vague. I'm busy with work. Busy with personal stuff. Just busy. You don't need to explain, especially if your goal is to make her jealous (which I don't advise, but understand). Not knowing the details will make her think about it more.
 
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How about you just drop her and not worry about it?

You're playing games so she can come back to you?

Weak.
 
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Hanging out with the guys, having a martial arts class, working out, doing family stuff

Latinoman said:
Maybe he should tell them the TRUTH. And if the truth SUCKS...then maybe he should focus on improving his life FIRST...before even attempting to date a woman.

Personally...if he has Oneitis...the best thing he can do is AVOID her.
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You're right. That's what I tell one girl when I'm off with another girl, which is what he should be doing.
 
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Come on guys the goal of a text message is to make her laugh and raise her interest level. Just sending "I'm busy" is boring as hell. Look at what Francisco posted

Francisco d'Anconia said:
"I've been busy plotting to overthrow the government."

"I've been busy trying to find out how many licks it takes to get to the Tootsie-roll center of a Tootsie-Pop."

"I'm been busy trying to find Jesu...." Nahhhh...
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Now that is PIMP and it makes her laugh and she STILL doesn't know what we are doing.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well some of the excuses - sorry - causes might be too much work, too much trivia, too many priorities, too many emails, too many meetings too much of everything!
 
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It may help to know why she's asking.
 
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