"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do yall cope with losing a major plate

Dhoulmagus

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I lost her at the worst time. The campus is pretty much dead after finals till school starts on January. I have to work all month, so my only hope is on New Years day. I've deleted all contact, but I keep thinking about her and fighting myself not to break nc.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Deadly_Ripped

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I deal with it the only way I know how:

Step 1: Look forward to the next plate
Step 2: Find the next plate
Step 3: Spin the next plate
 

skinnyguy

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Dang man you have so much oneitis you might be full on depressed soon. Take care of yourself and stop thinking about puss
 

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why wait until new years. there are plenty of smuts on tinder/pof.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Was just thinking about this as I'm resigning one of my plate for flaking last night.

It helps if you remember that You are better off by yourself than with someone with an atom of disrespect for you.

It's not my way or the highway but its my way, if you're trying to be with me. I can let it go your way when I want and if I want but this is my show.

There's like a billion more girls man, right now my line of thinking is: my focus is on making myself better, women come and go when the next one arrives I'll enjoy her till she leaves, which they all eventually do.

What's better than a old broad? A new punani!
 

Between_The_Lines

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Dhoulmagus said:
I don't have a billion girls to talk to.
1) You quite literally do, but they're not going to walk up to your doorstep and say "Heeey Doulmagus!! Heard you were lonely..." - Gotta go out and get 'em...or build it and they will ***..

2) This is the mindset that you have to adopt - that there are billion of chicks available for you to sink your teeth into. Any one can be replaced.
 

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I work and have school to be going to malls and hitting on soccer moms. It's not worth the time and effort to get flaked on. Well, I didn't lose it, but I can feel it sleeping away.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Between_The_Lines

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Dhoulmagus said:
I work and have school to be going to malls and hitting on soccer moms. It's not worth the time and effort to get flaked on.
Then first and foremost, devote your attention to school and work because those two ought to be head and shoulders above the desire for a female(s) anyway. Also, excelling at those two will gradually build up your value which will make acquiring women easier, not to mention the confidence it will instill in you ...which also will help make acquiring women easier as you'll have actual value to fall back on, not perceived smoke and mirrors PUA trickery. Socialize with and try to relate to everyone, do your best to keep an upbeat disposition as it's the basic building block of success with the girlies.
 
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