"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do yall cope with losing a major plate

Dhoulmagus

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I lost her at the worst time. The campus is pretty much dead after finals till school starts on January. I have to work all month, so my only hope is on New Years day. I've deleted all contact, but I keep thinking about her and fighting myself not to break nc.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I deal with it the only way I know how:

Step 1: Look forward to the next plate
Step 2: Find the next plate
Step 3: Spin the next plate
 

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Dang man you have so much oneitis you might be full on depressed soon. Take care of yourself and stop thinking about puss
 

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why wait until new years. there are plenty of smuts on tinder/pof.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Was just thinking about this as I'm resigning one of my plate for flaking last night.

It helps if you remember that You are better off by yourself than with someone with an atom of disrespect for you.

It's not my way or the highway but its my way, if you're trying to be with me. I can let it go your way when I want and if I want but this is my show.

There's like a billion more girls man, right now my line of thinking is: my focus is on making myself better, women come and go when the next one arrives I'll enjoy her till she leaves, which they all eventually do.

What's better than a old broad? A new punani!
 

Between_The_Lines

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Dhoulmagus said:
I don't have a billion girls to talk to.
1) You quite literally do, but they're not going to walk up to your doorstep and say "Heeey Doulmagus!! Heard you were lonely..." - Gotta go out and get 'em...or build it and they will ***..

2) This is the mindset that you have to adopt - that there are billion of chicks available for you to sink your teeth into. Any one can be replaced.
 

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I work and have school to be going to malls and hitting on soccer moms. It's not worth the time and effort to get flaked on. Well, I didn't lose it, but I can feel it sleeping away.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dhoulmagus said:
I work and have school to be going to malls and hitting on soccer moms. It's not worth the time and effort to get flaked on.
Then first and foremost, devote your attention to school and work because those two ought to be head and shoulders above the desire for a female(s) anyway. Also, excelling at those two will gradually build up your value which will make acquiring women easier, not to mention the confidence it will instill in you ...which also will help make acquiring women easier as you'll have actual value to fall back on, not perceived smoke and mirrors PUA trickery. Socialize with and try to relate to everyone, do your best to keep an upbeat disposition as it's the basic building block of success with the girlies.
 
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