"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sparky1981

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he guys

I'm not new to this. I use to b here but have rejoined under a new name.

Anyway. I made a bit of mistake with this girl.
We been out and she seemed pretty cool with going out. We txt instead of ring. The other night I texted her a bit to much and showed her i'm desperate. She's not so sure she wants me. So how Do I redeem myself if thats poss?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BackToTheMack

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Do not call her or talk to her till she contacts you. Next time dont hide behind text messages just call. Were are your balls?
 

Jariel

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Originally posted by BackToTheMack
Do not call her or talk to her till she contacts you.
I agree. If you can do this, you can redeem yourself, but if you give in and text her or try to prompt her to get back to you, you will lose by it.

I disagree about calling her instead of texting though. It has nothing to do with balls. Sometimes it's just easier, more casual and less intrusive to text.
 

BackToTheMack

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Agreed but the way he is describing its his only form of communication with her besides face to face. This is what i do not think is ok.
 

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Hye no big deal bro. You have a really good chance of getting her interest back. Ignore her and wait for her to call you. When she does keep that convo sweet but short, pretend your busy and call her back later. And take it from there.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

sparky1981

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I use txt because I its easy to say something anytime day or night and cheap. It is like ringing some1 but better
 

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Originally posted by sparky1981
I use txt because I its easy to say something anytime day or night and cheap. It is like ringing some1 but better
Just don't let texting ruin your face-to-face communication skills. I have this strange feeling that many people that rely on text too much will become too used to having the time to prepare their response that when it comes to face-to-face convos, they suck at it because they're not spontaneous enough. Just a feeling only though.
 

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I ahve plenty of workmates, flatmates and freinds to keep me on top of that. The secret to talking to chicks is that they r just another person. Talk to them like they r
 
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