"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sparky1981

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he guys

I'm not new to this. I use to b here but have rejoined under a new name.

Anyway. I made a bit of mistake with this girl.
We been out and she seemed pretty cool with going out. We txt instead of ring. The other night I texted her a bit to much and showed her i'm desperate. She's not so sure she wants me. So how Do I redeem myself if thats poss?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BackToTheMack

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Do not call her or talk to her till she contacts you. Next time dont hide behind text messages just call. Were are your balls?
 

Jariel

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Originally posted by BackToTheMack
Do not call her or talk to her till she contacts you.
I agree. If you can do this, you can redeem yourself, but if you give in and text her or try to prompt her to get back to you, you will lose by it.

I disagree about calling her instead of texting though. It has nothing to do with balls. Sometimes it's just easier, more casual and less intrusive to text.
 

BackToTheMack

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Agreed but the way he is describing its his only form of communication with her besides face to face. This is what i do not think is ok.
 

griffon65

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Hye no big deal bro. You have a really good chance of getting her interest back. Ignore her and wait for her to call you. When she does keep that convo sweet but short, pretend your busy and call her back later. And take it from there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sparky1981

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I use txt because I its easy to say something anytime day or night and cheap. It is like ringing some1 but better
 

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Originally posted by sparky1981
I use txt because I its easy to say something anytime day or night and cheap. It is like ringing some1 but better
Just don't let texting ruin your face-to-face communication skills. I have this strange feeling that many people that rely on text too much will become too used to having the time to prepare their response that when it comes to face-to-face convos, they suck at it because they're not spontaneous enough. Just a feeling only though.
 

sparky1981

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I ahve plenty of workmates, flatmates and freinds to keep me on top of that. The secret to talking to chicks is that they r just another person. Talk to them like they r
 
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