Aspiring_DJ
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I need to create a new social circle from scratchh and dont know what to do. I am a junior in college and everyone seems to have their groups already.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
how do u create a social circle from scratch?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
The more you talk to people, the more chances you have of getting invited somewhere. Also, get a social job. That is a great way to make new connections.
Don't be afraid to go out on the town alone. You will meet new ppl that way. And invite ppl! Random ppl you make conversation with, say "I was thinking about going to XYZ tonight, want to meet me up there?"
The key is to make yourself available. To people, to opportunity.
Don't be afraid to go out on the town alone. You will meet new ppl that way. And invite ppl! Random ppl you make conversation with, say "I was thinking about going to XYZ tonight, want to meet me up there?"
The key is to make yourself available. To people, to opportunity.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
I am assuming OP is on the younger side.brett012 said:
Waiting tables is #1, absolutely. Bartending. Working at a club (door guy or bouncer).
Working at a clothing store in the mall, or one of those kiosks.
Work on campus.
If you can get a job as a promoter at a local club, (or even an "internship" i.e. pass out flyers and promote online in exchange for free passes and a small tab at the bar), you are GOLD.
This is something I've been thinking over myself. I decided to volunteer for the red cross and/or amnesty international if I can: doing good feels good, I dunno why people don't do it more! It's almost selfish XD
Also, I stuck up some ads to offer to teach people english... Well I'm in Spain see.
Also, I stuck up some ads to offer to teach people english... Well I'm in Spain see.
Poonani Maker
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Well, iqqi has some great advice. Try meetup.com too.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The easiest way to make a social circle, or get into one is to join a sports team around campus. You can do one of two things; if you don't have a team, either make one on your own ( this'll prove you got balls to initiate), or join a team that needs a ringer in whatever sport. If you are any good, teams will be in line trying to recruit you One you prove you can carry your weight, have some fun, suddenly you'll start going out to celebrate victories, and meeting new people. In two years, I joined two different teams and made good friends with very established social circles that I otherwise would not have.
Other things I did was get jobs at the recreation dept. I reffed on some nights, which not only broke the tedium of my work, but it opened up a new group of people I otherwise would not have met in my major. When you are in school as long as I was , social circles come and go. You have to learn how to become a focal point for a group of people for a common interest, and naturally people will percolate into your life.
One you prove you can carry your weight, have some fun, suddenly you'll start going out to celebrate victories, and meeting new people. In two years, I joined two different teams and made good friends with very established social circles that I otherwise would not have. Other things I did was get jobs at the recreation dept. I reffed on some nights, which not only broke the tedium of my work, but it opened up a new group of people I otherwise would not have met in my major. When you are in school as long as I was , social circles come and go. You have to learn how to become a focal point for a group of people for a common interest, and naturally people will percolate into your life.