Aspiring_DJ
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I need to create a new social circle from scratchh and dont know what to do. I am a junior in college and everyone seems to have their groups already.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
how do u create a social circle from scratch?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
The more you talk to people, the more chances you have of getting invited somewhere. Also, get a social job. That is a great way to make new connections.
Don't be afraid to go out on the town alone. You will meet new ppl that way. And invite ppl! Random ppl you make conversation with, say "I was thinking about going to XYZ tonight, want to meet me up there?"
The key is to make yourself available. To people, to opportunity.
Don't be afraid to go out on the town alone. You will meet new ppl that way. And invite ppl! Random ppl you make conversation with, say "I was thinking about going to XYZ tonight, want to meet me up there?"
The key is to make yourself available. To people, to opportunity.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
I am assuming OP is on the younger side.brett012 said:
Waiting tables is #1, absolutely. Bartending. Working at a club (door guy or bouncer).
Working at a clothing store in the mall, or one of those kiosks.
Work on campus.
If you can get a job as a promoter at a local club, (or even an "internship" i.e. pass out flyers and promote online in exchange for free passes and a small tab at the bar), you are GOLD.
This is something I've been thinking over myself. I decided to volunteer for the red cross and/or amnesty international if I can: doing good feels good, I dunno why people don't do it more! It's almost selfish XD
Also, I stuck up some ads to offer to teach people english... Well I'm in Spain see.
Also, I stuck up some ads to offer to teach people english... Well I'm in Spain see.
Poonani Maker
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Well, iqqi has some great advice. Try meetup.com too.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The easiest way to make a social circle, or get into one is to join a sports team around campus. You can do one of two things; if you don't have a team, either make one on your own ( this'll prove you got balls to initiate), or join a team that needs a ringer in whatever sport. If you are any good, teams will be in line trying to recruit you One you prove you can carry your weight, have some fun, suddenly you'll start going out to celebrate victories, and meeting new people. In two years, I joined two different teams and made good friends with very established social circles that I otherwise would not have.
Other things I did was get jobs at the recreation dept. I reffed on some nights, which not only broke the tedium of my work, but it opened up a new group of people I otherwise would not have met in my major. When you are in school as long as I was , social circles come and go. You have to learn how to become a focal point for a group of people for a common interest, and naturally people will percolate into your life.
One you prove you can carry your weight, have some fun, suddenly you'll start going out to celebrate victories, and meeting new people. In two years, I joined two different teams and made good friends with very established social circles that I otherwise would not have. Other things I did was get jobs at the recreation dept. I reffed on some nights, which not only broke the tedium of my work, but it opened up a new group of people I otherwise would not have met in my major. When you are in school as long as I was , social circles come and go. You have to learn how to become a focal point for a group of people for a common interest, and naturally people will percolate into your life.