"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alright guys, a girl I am really interested in taking things further with is going into hospital soon, nothing major, and it'll only be an in one day, out the next thing, but I'm wondering what I should do with this situation/opportunity in regards to showing some sort of sign that I'm thinking of her or make her feel that I am a guy worth getting involved in a relationship with. Flowers and chocolates are the obvious, but that is cliched and shows little thought or effort. I am really interested in hearing what some of you guys with far more experience than me would do or have done so that I can then mould it with my own personal touch. Thanks guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks Danny, anyone else got some idea's? I know there must be someone out there amongst you Don's who has some experience with this sort of situation. Thanks guys!
 

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There was this one chick I was using for DJ practice. She had a big mouth on her, and I really didn't like her (she really liked me), but she was good for practice. She ended up in the hospital for something, and I got a phone call from her sister.

So, I contemplated the issue. I really didn't care that she was in the hospital, but I didn't want to seem like a complete careless a55hole (word would get around since she had a big mouth). I went and visited her for an hour, no candy, no flowers, and no stuffed animals. My presence was enough, and it made her very happy that I came to visit.

Take some time out of your schedule and just visit with her.
 

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Originally posted by Desdinova
There was this one chick I was using for DJ practice. She had a big mouth on her, and I really didn't like her (she really liked me), but she was good for practice. She ended up in the hospital for something, and I got a phone call from her sister.

So, I contemplated the issue. I really didn't care that she was in the hospital, but I didn't want to seem like a complete careless a55hole (word would get around since she had a big mouth). I went and visited her for an hour, no candy, no flowers, and no stuffed animals. My presence was enough, and it made her very happy that I came to visit.

Take some time out of your schedule and just visit with her.
so true, it always seems the ones you dont really care about are the ones where you dj skills really shine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Desdinova
There was this one chick I was using for DJ practice. She had a big mouth on her, and I really didn't like her (she really liked me), but she was good for practice. She ended up in the hospital for something, and I got a phone call from her sister.

So, I contemplated the issue. I really didn't care that she was in the hospital, but I didn't want to seem like a complete careless a55hole (word would get around since she had a big mouth). I went and visited her for an hour, no candy, no flowers, and no stuffed animals. My presence was enough, and it made her very happy that I came to visit.

Take some time out of your schedule and just visit with her.
so true, it always seems the ones you dont really care about are the ones where you dj skills really shine.
 

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Dont Take along anything....

Go there Talk to her, make her laugh, Hold her hand ,Kiss her and leave...

Gifts are pushing it...
 

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I almost forgot... Dont foget to Groom/dress up nicely... or decently...Subcommunicates a lot... apart from you being seen as Superstar in a dullmovie out for guest appearance.. Shell feel special.. trust me.. just dont say I was going to a party so I thought Id drop in... nor do u say Its for her.. just let her use her imagination..
 

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Guys! Such great advice, yet it was all so simple. Well I guess that's what this forum is for, thanks again guys.
 
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