"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Alright guys, a girl I am really interested in taking things further with is going into hospital soon, nothing major, and it'll only be an in one day, out the next thing, but I'm wondering what I should do with this situation/opportunity in regards to showing some sort of sign that I'm thinking of her or make her feel that I am a guy worth getting involved in a relationship with. Flowers and chocolates are the obvious, but that is cliched and shows little thought or effort. I am really interested in hearing what some of you guys with far more experience than me would do or have done so that I can then mould it with my own personal touch. Thanks guys.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks Danny, anyone else got some idea's? I know there must be someone out there amongst you Don's who has some experience with this sort of situation. Thanks guys!
 

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There was this one chick I was using for DJ practice. She had a big mouth on her, and I really didn't like her (she really liked me), but she was good for practice. She ended up in the hospital for something, and I got a phone call from her sister.

So, I contemplated the issue. I really didn't care that she was in the hospital, but I didn't want to seem like a complete careless a55hole (word would get around since she had a big mouth). I went and visited her for an hour, no candy, no flowers, and no stuffed animals. My presence was enough, and it made her very happy that I came to visit.

Take some time out of your schedule and just visit with her.
 

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Originally posted by Desdinova
There was this one chick I was using for DJ practice. She had a big mouth on her, and I really didn't like her (she really liked me), but she was good for practice. She ended up in the hospital for something, and I got a phone call from her sister.

So, I contemplated the issue. I really didn't care that she was in the hospital, but I didn't want to seem like a complete careless a55hole (word would get around since she had a big mouth). I went and visited her for an hour, no candy, no flowers, and no stuffed animals. My presence was enough, and it made her very happy that I came to visit.

Take some time out of your schedule and just visit with her.
so true, it always seems the ones you dont really care about are the ones where you dj skills really shine.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Desdinova
There was this one chick I was using for DJ practice. She had a big mouth on her, and I really didn't like her (she really liked me), but she was good for practice. She ended up in the hospital for something, and I got a phone call from her sister.

So, I contemplated the issue. I really didn't care that she was in the hospital, but I didn't want to seem like a complete careless a55hole (word would get around since she had a big mouth). I went and visited her for an hour, no candy, no flowers, and no stuffed animals. My presence was enough, and it made her very happy that I came to visit.

Take some time out of your schedule and just visit with her.
so true, it always seems the ones you dont really care about are the ones where you dj skills really shine.
 

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Dont Take along anything....

Go there Talk to her, make her laugh, Hold her hand ,Kiss her and leave...

Gifts are pushing it...
 

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I almost forgot... Dont foget to Groom/dress up nicely... or decently...Subcommunicates a lot... apart from you being seen as Superstar in a dullmovie out for guest appearance.. Shell feel special.. trust me.. just dont say I was going to a party so I thought Id drop in... nor do u say Its for her.. just let her use her imagination..
 

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Guys! Such great advice, yet it was all so simple. Well I guess that's what this forum is for, thanks again guys.
 
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