How do I stop seeming like a nice guy?

[Josh Davidson]

How do I become a bad boy or jerk?

 

[Josh Davidson]

I watched it. I learned a lot about the importance of being c0cky funny. Thank you!

 

[Atom Smasher]

I think the most worthy goal to have is not to become an actual jerk, but rather to adopt the attractive qualities that most jerks have.

This is entirely possible to pull off. You can become a decent man who is attractive, bold, dangerous, and thrilling for a woman to be with by isolating those attractive traits and incorporating them into your personality without also incorporating the “jerk” qualities. I advise all young men to aspire to be a man of strength, dignity and character. The jerk has some attractive qualities but he is at heart a loser. Take the jerk personality, throw it on the cutting board and trim away the loser jerk but preserve the meat that makes a man attractive.

The beauty of being a man is that he can create his character out of many component parts. Women are incapable of doing this. Create and build who you are. Steal the good stuff from the jerk and throw away the rest. You are your own designer.

 

[Josh Davidson]

Thanks for the advice!

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Get that (audio-)book:

No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life by Dr. Robert Glover

I was a nice-guy myself and it helped me a lot in understanding where i came from and whats going on.
That understanding was the first step into changing myself to the better.

You need to get through it, let it sink in and then read/hear it again a few months later.

Go for it!

 

[firstbornunicorn]

If you're into reading I would recommend "the 3% man". One thing you need to understand is that not being a "nice guy" is also a self preservation thing for you. You're not "changing" for women, but for yourself.

Psycho women will 100% **** you up if you're too nice. eg: an entitled woman would love for you to pay for expensive **** since day 1. A healthy woman would probably ask you why tf you're doing that so soon.

You're also not becoming a bad boy/jerk, you're simply letting that side of you come out to play every now and then to keep things spicy. If you're going to go all out and always be a jerk, you'll also chase away healthy women and only end up with desperate ones that have a bad relationship with their fathers.

 

[Josh Davidson]

Thank you!

 

[Machine10033]

I wouldn’t say you have to be a bad boy... or a jerk? That’s a misconception...I was a complete jerk most of my youth. 25 plus years a lot of people still hate me. If you can deal with that... then try the jerk route. A better option is to set boundaries and stand for something. You can be a great guy...but have a backbone. Tell people the truth... if something bothers you speak up and let it be known. No longer smile and pretend everything is ok. Do not agree with people just to agree... reserve your smile for genuine happiness instead of faking it. There is nothing wrong with being nice.. if it’s for the right reasons. If your pretending to be nice because your suffering from some fear of cowardice about not being liked... that’s what girls can sniff out.

 

[Glassguy]

Just learn to say "No" when the situation/decision doesnt benefit you. Its really that simple.

 

[bat soup]

How do I become a bad boy or jerk?

Start farting in lifts That's what I always do.

 

[Mike32ct]

Don’t try to be a jerk if you’re not. But wit and/or sarcasm can be very attractive.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Be direct. Use less words. Treat women like people instead of goddesses. Hold women accountable for their shvt.

 

[manfrombelow]

I think the most worthy goal to have is not to become an actual jerk, but rather to adopt the attractive qualities that most jerks have.

This is entirely possible to pull off. You can become a decent man who is attractive, bold, dangerous, and thrilling for a woman to be with by isolating those attractive traits and incorporating them into your personality without also incorporating the “jerk” qualities. I advise all young men to aspire to be a man of strength, dignity and character. The jerk has some attractive qualities but he is at heart a loser. Take the jerk personality, throw it on the cutting board and trim away the loser jerk but preserve the meat that makes a man attractive.

The beauty of being a man is that he can create his character out of many component parts. Women are incapable of doing this. Create and build who you are. Steal the good stuff from the jerk and throw away the rest. You are your own designer.

Exactly, sir.

An alpha knows how to copy and implement the quality of jerks/*******s/bad boys without having to actually become one.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

You don't, some women will qualify you as a nice guy if you have a job for example lol.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You seem like a jerk to me. What's your secret?

"Jerk" or "assh0le" overall quality might not be jerk or assh0le. It might be he doesn't put up with sh1t from female and is quick to dismiss them. He doesn't allow them to waste his time or attention. To the outside guy it looks like he's being mean or a jerk or assh0le. When in reality he's standing up from himself and justified in doing so.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

How do I become a bad boy or jerk?

You don't need to be a jerk. That is a misconception.

You just need to focus on your self-development and future long enough to know your worth. This effectively gives you a sense of true worth and self-respect that will in turn develop an aloof vibe to your persona that can come across as a "bad boy". The more you solidify this concept, the more aloof, the more aloof, the more options you will have, the more options the less you care, the less you care, the more "jerk" aka bad boy you will be seen as.

We would recommend reading our articles about "bad boys" but they are premium paid content and we don't want to profit from giving advice on this platform.

Hope this helps,
Modern Man Advice

 

[Paper Crane]

I don't think you can fake being something you're not. Girls can tell that crap from a mile away.

Not saying you can't be a jerk and get away with it. A lot of dudes do it but if you're genuinely a nice guy its going to come off as ingenuine and be a huge turn off.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Have a backbone and don't accept behavior you don't want to accept.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Start farting in lifts That's what I always do.

That was you yesterday? I reported you to the manager.

 

[Lookatu]

No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life by Dr. Robert Glover

I second this recommendation for the OP.