"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how do i stop offering help?

big weezy

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I have this prob whereever a girl acts damsel in distress I turn into captain save a h0 no matter the prob.

For instance this older womani started talking to but has friendzoned me I keep offering her help or advice on stuff. My default setting seems to be supplication, she didn't respond to my text a week ago so I thought **** it it I'm not gona speak to her anymore cos she's clearly showing not interest. Today in a coffe place she passes by me and says hi, I say hi and she asks me how I'm doing I say I'm good and ask her if she's ok, she says 'I'm over there' where she's pointing to sitting, last time I went over and spent ages talking, like a stupid lapdog so this time I didn go, I told myself I'd either as I leave just say bye and walk out or I'd ssay bye but try to talk a bit, 2nd option was a mistake cos she has some computer prb and I offered to help. Basically I'm so friendszoned I should just hang myself. How do I change this behaviour not to help a woman with her BS probs?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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theunflushables

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You say "sorry, I can't help you right now, I have somewhere to be." Then leave.
 

Julius_Seizeher

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Does not helping these women with their problems make you an a$$hole or a prick?

It doesn't have to be that way.

Just think "It's no business of mine."
 
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