"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How do i respond to this
- Thread starter mcpwn
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MotownMack
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You gave her two possible answers to this closed question, and she obviously didn't like either one-as the question sort of implies that being a shot girl is a negative thing.
Probably not the way you meant it, but looks like that's how it came out.
As a general rule, when I am talking to a girl that is in a position where she probably gets hit on a lot etc, I avoid that subject matter completely. I don't want to acknowledge that I think she should be getting hit on (it's like me telling her she's hot), and quite frankly, I don't want to acknowledge other guys at all.
My honest opinion-if that was pretty much the full extent of the conversation you had with her, there really isn't a recovery from it. It sounds like she probably had a low IL in you, and neither one of you have enough vested to make patching things up worth the effort.
Daddy The Pimp
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She knew right then that she wasn't interested in you. You would have had better chances if you literally put you foot in your mouth.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mavrick said:What in the world does being short have to do with being a wh0re? Why would you even want to ask that question?
She knew right then that she wasn't interested in you. You would have had better chances if you literally put you foot in your mouth.
shot girls, they let u lick vodka off their bodys
Talk about James Bond like. Can't imagine why she shut you down like that...that would have made any girls' knees weak IMHO.mcpwn said:me:what does it feel like being a shot girl?
HB: lol what do you mean?
me:what emotions do u get like do u feel happy all these guys like u or do u feel like a *****
HB:youre being really disrespectful so please dont talk to me
lool wtfDonJuan11 said:Talk about James Bond like. Can't imagine why she shut you down like that...that would have made any girls' knees weak IMHO.
I hate when i have AFC moments
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
OrangeCrusader
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It's not an AFC thing, it's just a lack of sense, I don't see what you were hoping to accomplish by asking that. *shrug*
OrangeCrusader
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As to the respect issue, just tell her "Woman, settle." In your most fatherlike voice and a huge grin. It never fails to break the tension, and usually they realize they over react. If not, then they aren't worth your time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How is she being disrespectful by being a shot girl? IMO, she is smart for taking advantage of her looks. If I could get paid for being hot, I would jump on that ****.Mavrick said:Oh, ok. I read that all wrong. You weren't being disrespectful. She's being disrespectful by being that type of woman, and just asking for it, really. I wouldn't worry about it.
Ok, whatever.volkme68 said:How is she being disrespectful by being a shot girl? IMO, she is smart for taking advantage of her looks. If I could get paid for being hot, I would jump on that ****.
Women who have to depend on their looks don't have too much else going for them.