"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How do i respond to this
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MotownMack
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You gave her two possible answers to this closed question, and she obviously didn't like either one-as the question sort of implies that being a shot girl is a negative thing.
Probably not the way you meant it, but looks like that's how it came out.
As a general rule, when I am talking to a girl that is in a position where she probably gets hit on a lot etc, I avoid that subject matter completely. I don't want to acknowledge that I think she should be getting hit on (it's like me telling her she's hot), and quite frankly, I don't want to acknowledge other guys at all.
My honest opinion-if that was pretty much the full extent of the conversation you had with her, there really isn't a recovery from it. It sounds like she probably had a low IL in you, and neither one of you have enough vested to make patching things up worth the effort.
Daddy The Pimp
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She knew right then that she wasn't interested in you. You would have had better chances if you literally put you foot in your mouth.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mavrick said:What in the world does being short have to do with being a wh0re? Why would you even want to ask that question?
She knew right then that she wasn't interested in you. You would have had better chances if you literally put you foot in your mouth.
shot girls, they let u lick vodka off their bodys
Talk about James Bond like. Can't imagine why she shut you down like that...that would have made any girls' knees weak IMHO.mcpwn said:me:what does it feel like being a shot girl?
HB: lol what do you mean?
me:what emotions do u get like do u feel happy all these guys like u or do u feel like a *****
HB:youre being really disrespectful so please dont talk to me
lool wtfDonJuan11 said:Talk about James Bond like. Can't imagine why she shut you down like that...that would have made any girls' knees weak IMHO.
I hate when i have AFC moments
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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It's not an AFC thing, it's just a lack of sense, I don't see what you were hoping to accomplish by asking that. *shrug*
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As to the respect issue, just tell her "Woman, settle." In your most fatherlike voice and a huge grin. It never fails to break the tension, and usually they realize they over react. If not, then they aren't worth your time.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How is she being disrespectful by being a shot girl? IMO, she is smart for taking advantage of her looks. If I could get paid for being hot, I would jump on that ****.Mavrick said:Oh, ok. I read that all wrong. You weren't being disrespectful. She's being disrespectful by being that type of woman, and just asking for it, really. I wouldn't worry about it.
Ok, whatever.volkme68 said:How is she being disrespectful by being a shot girl? IMO, she is smart for taking advantage of her looks. If I could get paid for being hot, I would jump on that ****.
Women who have to depend on their looks don't have too much else going for them.