"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do i respond to this
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
MotownMack
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You gave her two possible answers to this closed question, and she obviously didn't like either one-as the question sort of implies that being a shot girl is a negative thing.
Probably not the way you meant it, but looks like that's how it came out.
As a general rule, when I am talking to a girl that is in a position where she probably gets hit on a lot etc, I avoid that subject matter completely. I don't want to acknowledge that I think she should be getting hit on (it's like me telling her she's hot), and quite frankly, I don't want to acknowledge other guys at all.
My honest opinion-if that was pretty much the full extent of the conversation you had with her, there really isn't a recovery from it. It sounds like she probably had a low IL in you, and neither one of you have enough vested to make patching things up worth the effort.
Daddy The Pimp
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She knew right then that she wasn't interested in you. You would have had better chances if you literally put you foot in your mouth.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Mavrick said:What in the world does being short have to do with being a wh0re? Why would you even want to ask that question?
She knew right then that she wasn't interested in you. You would have had better chances if you literally put you foot in your mouth.
shot girls, they let u lick vodka off their bodys
Talk about James Bond like. Can't imagine why she shut you down like that...that would have made any girls' knees weak IMHO.mcpwn said:me:what does it feel like being a shot girl?
HB: lol what do you mean?
me:what emotions do u get like do u feel happy all these guys like u or do u feel like a *****
HB:youre being really disrespectful so please dont talk to me
lool wtfDonJuan11 said:Talk about James Bond like. Can't imagine why she shut you down like that...that would have made any girls' knees weak IMHO.
I hate when i have AFC moments
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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It's not an AFC thing, it's just a lack of sense, I don't see what you were hoping to accomplish by asking that. *shrug*
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As to the respect issue, just tell her "Woman, settle." In your most fatherlike voice and a huge grin. It never fails to break the tension, and usually they realize they over react. If not, then they aren't worth your time.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How is she being disrespectful by being a shot girl? IMO, she is smart for taking advantage of her looks. If I could get paid for being hot, I would jump on that ****.Mavrick said:Oh, ok. I read that all wrong. You weren't being disrespectful. She's being disrespectful by being that type of woman, and just asking for it, really. I wouldn't worry about it.
Ok, whatever.volkme68 said:How is she being disrespectful by being a shot girl? IMO, she is smart for taking advantage of her looks. If I could get paid for being hot, I would jump on that ****.
Women who have to depend on their looks don't have too much else going for them.