"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How Do I NOT Sleep With Her?

BigMike

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Well, if you read my first thread here I mentioned that all girls ever want to do with me is sleep together (Which is great). Im just at the point where after a few years of friends and everyone calling me a prostitute and other wisecracks, I want to do some other things with chicks...

This brings me to now. I met a "new" girl over the weekend and we spoke last night. Randomly during the convo she asks what Im doing tomorrow after work (today). Anyways, I said we can get together and I'll think of something to do. She then says that we could just go back to my place and watch a DVD or listen to music...

How do I tell her I prefer to go out without looking like Im nuts???

I wouldnt mind hitting it later on tonight, but would prefer to do something of substance first...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

spider_007

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tell her straight up that you are looking for something different from her then you ware from all the other relationships. She will fall to your knees. She'll love the honesty, and love you for being different. And on top of that you'll build enticipation for when it does happen...
 

BigMike

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Originally posted by spider_007
tell her straight up that you are looking for something different from her then you ware from all the other relationships. She will fall to your knees. She'll love the honesty, and love you for being different. And on top of that you'll build enticipation for when it does happen...
There in lies the problem though, lol.

I dont know that I want anything serious with her. I honestly enjoy a females company doing things (non-sexually) like dinner, plays, and all that other ****.
 

MidnightResistance

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Oh man...
what a horrible dilemma *sarcasm*

maybe you should become some *****es weak male friend? Would that satisfy your desire for friendship?
Or even better, tell chicks you're gay!
lol
 

snintel

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Originally posted by BigMike
Well, if you read my first thread here I mentioned that all girls ever want to do with me is sleep together (Which is great). Im just at the point where after a few years of friends and everyone calling me a prostitute and other wisecracks, I want to do some other things with chicks...

This brings me to now. I met a "new" girl over the weekend and we spoke last night. Randomly during the convo she asks what Im doing tomorrow after work (today). Anyways, I said we can get together and I'll think of something to do. She then says that we could just go back to my place and watch a DVD or listen to music...

How do I tell her I prefer to go out without looking like Im nuts???

I wouldnt mind hitting it later on tonight, but would prefer to do something of substance first...
Just say 'No, let's go _____". is it that hard? youre the man, you lead.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Re: Re: How Do I NOT Sleep With Her?

Originally posted by snintel
Just say 'No, let's go _____". is it that hard? youre the man, you lead.
Which is what Im gonna do. Its funny that this is the only circumstances where Im worried of rejection.

After being the same way for so long, I feel like they dont think Im "going out to dinner with" material, lol.

Im losing it, I know.
 
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