"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey

I'm wondering of there's anything I can do to improve my appearance or make myself look better?

I don't think highly if my appearance, but I'm contemplating putting a picture on here
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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btownbuck2012

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throw that pic up! :cool:
 

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You have courage, and you should.

Congrats. So do it
 

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In case you don't want your picture publicly available (which would be wise) you can send it on PM to those who request it. This forum is indexed by Google so it could turn up in search many many years into the future if you post it in a thread.

I'd want to see it though.

As I was wtiting this I see you shared it, if you remove that post and PM it instead it's fine. Google doesn't instantly index things.

Edit: That looks good, to be honest though there is a lack of typical masculine facial features. You can't do much about that and it shouldn't really stop you from attracting women. You probably have most to gain by working on your mindset/inner game.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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In case you don't want your picture publicly available (which would be wise) you can send it on PM to those who request it. This forum is indexed by Google so it could turn up in search many many years into the future if you post it in a thread.

I'd want to see it though.

As I was wtiting this I see you shared it, if you remove that post and PM it instead it's fine. Google doesn't instantly index things.

Edit: That looks good, to be honest though there is a lack of typical masculine facial features. You can't do much about that and it shouldn't really stop you from attracting women. You probably have most to gain by working on your mindset/inner game.

Cool, who can I pm it to?
 

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Decent enough. I would lose the lower beard line though, and keep the mustache, the beard line accentuates your unmasculine looking jaw line. Hair thicker on the sides will also help. Take the focus off your jaw. Possibly longer sideburns also.
 
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Cool, who can I pm it to?
Anyone really, my point was to not post it publicly in this thread where it may show up on Google searches linking you to this forum. Just in case you want to reduce the chance of anyone you know find out what you post here. Just send it to guys here interested in viewing it and they'll post their feedback in this thread.

Just a privacy tip, you can leave the link there if you want.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alright looking dude, albeit a lil feminine. Like another recommended lose the beard. Its appears patchy and not very thick. It outlines your jaw which you shouldn't want in your case. Shave it to a stubble. Choose a better hairstyle for you face shape. Start lifting weights. You're fine.
 

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Agree with the comments above. Working on the shoulders, traps, and deltoids will help your figure.
 

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Find you good looking. If I had your look: I would add.. improve the bear... it looks childish or ''un-cared''... either remove or trim it well (barber might be good)... might want to build more shoulder muscle and upper chest.
^My thoughts exactly @phil2015 . But you're not a bad looking dude at all.
 
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