"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how do I look?!?!

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Those glasses make you look like you're from the 50s. Your skin is a little red. What's it from? Other than that if I were gay I'd hit it.
 

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Actually I am just trying to find out if I am an regular joe or a hunchback of Notre Damme. I'll whiten my teath at the dentist, cause I smile a lot and have a big smile.
I wear contacts 60-70 % of the time but actually every girl I've been with said she liked me more with glasses. But I feel better without them
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lol, a regular guy over tha day and a womens rights fighter at nights, is it a plane, it it a rocket, is it a bird, no
it's



The Nerd.
 

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You look fine,I would change up the glasses and cut the hair a little shorter,but that's MY style not YOURS. Do as you please. By the way one of the hottest chicks I know,well her husband just happens to look like you and wear the same style glasses,just food for thought.
 

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Your complextion isnt great. I would go with redoing the hair. Your cheeks seem well red for some reason.

However dude you are not ugly. Your not brad pitt either....but you dont need to be. TRUST ME
 

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As for the hair, youre right, I haven't cut my hair for 3 weeks so It's time to cut it again.
 

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And the pics have been taken with a cell phone which I think distorts the pic a bit.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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it looks very fluffy. Bit of styling wouldnt go a miss :woo:
 

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I consider myself face-wise a 6.5-7(totally in the middle). But since I'm 6'1'' and weigh 190 pounds I am not totally lost. I would rate my body a 7.5-8.
 

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You should do fine.

Only thing, hard to tell from the pick, but like me, it looks like you have very thick eyebrows. Might want to look into that.


-E.Nigma
 

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Yes I have thick eyebrows but the thing is- they are already shortened and the unibrow removed. Anyway- look at this guy;), they're the same;)
No, I am not fishing for compliments, I was talking online with this girl and sent her this shi tty pic (I KNOW it's ****ty, but what fuk it)- and she said- let's better not meet.
So now I took better ones, but I was wondering if I an ugly or normal. I guess now that I'm normal looking.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dude, first impressions/appearances are everything. You dont even look confident in that picture. HOW you look is more important then WHAT you look like.
 

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I know but if I put on my normal look, I look like I'm gonna kill someone , unless I'm smiling, so I have to put a puppy look.
But here's one I'm "normal" and smiling
 

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Dude, forget what you know and listen to the people here with experience. Hell, youve been around here since 2003 like me, you should have more things figured out by now. Clean your face up with some good nutrogena face wash, get some lotions, etc.

Smile and look into the camera not pouty like a woman. A sly grin would do wonders
 

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You are above average BUT:

I think the background to the pics lets them down.

Your 'look' as other posters have mentioned does not scream confidence. Great news is you can work on that.

It might just be she was turned off because you don't fit her architype in terms of 'tribal belonging' than any actual physical issue.
 

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Charm said:
Dude, forget what you know and listen to the people here with experience. Hell, youve been around here since 2003 like me, you should have more things figured out by now. Clean your face up with some good nutrogena face wash, get some lotions, etc.

Smile and look into the camera not pouty like a woman. A sly grin would do wonders
I use face products, so my face is even colour and not shining. But not on the pic:(

I edited my previous post. What do you say.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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