"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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how do I look?!?!

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Those glasses make you look like you're from the 50s. Your skin is a little red. What's it from? Other than that if I were gay I'd hit it.
 

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Actually I am just trying to find out if I am an regular joe or a hunchback of Notre Damme. I'll whiten my teath at the dentist, cause I smile a lot and have a big smile.
I wear contacts 60-70 % of the time but actually every girl I've been with said she liked me more with glasses. But I feel better without them
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Lol, a regular guy over tha day and a womens rights fighter at nights, is it a plane, it it a rocket, is it a bird, no
it's



The Nerd.
 

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You look fine,I would change up the glasses and cut the hair a little shorter,but that's MY style not YOURS. Do as you please. By the way one of the hottest chicks I know,well her husband just happens to look like you and wear the same style glasses,just food for thought.
 

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Your complextion isnt great. I would go with redoing the hair. Your cheeks seem well red for some reason.

However dude you are not ugly. Your not brad pitt either....but you dont need to be. TRUST ME
 

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As for the hair, youre right, I haven't cut my hair for 3 weeks so It's time to cut it again.
 

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And the pics have been taken with a cell phone which I think distorts the pic a bit.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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it looks very fluffy. Bit of styling wouldnt go a miss :woo:
 

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I consider myself face-wise a 6.5-7(totally in the middle). But since I'm 6'1'' and weigh 190 pounds I am not totally lost. I would rate my body a 7.5-8.
 

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You should do fine.

Only thing, hard to tell from the pick, but like me, it looks like you have very thick eyebrows. Might want to look into that.


-E.Nigma
 

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Yes I have thick eyebrows but the thing is- they are already shortened and the unibrow removed. Anyway- look at this guy;), they're the same;)
No, I am not fishing for compliments, I was talking online with this girl and sent her this shi tty pic (I KNOW it's ****ty, but what fuk it)- and she said- let's better not meet.
So now I took better ones, but I was wondering if I an ugly or normal. I guess now that I'm normal looking.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dude, first impressions/appearances are everything. You dont even look confident in that picture. HOW you look is more important then WHAT you look like.
 

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I know but if I put on my normal look, I look like I'm gonna kill someone , unless I'm smiling, so I have to put a puppy look.
But here's one I'm "normal" and smiling
 

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Dude, forget what you know and listen to the people here with experience. Hell, youve been around here since 2003 like me, you should have more things figured out by now. Clean your face up with some good nutrogena face wash, get some lotions, etc.

Smile and look into the camera not pouty like a woman. A sly grin would do wonders
 

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You are above average BUT:

I think the background to the pics lets them down.

Your 'look' as other posters have mentioned does not scream confidence. Great news is you can work on that.

It might just be she was turned off because you don't fit her architype in terms of 'tribal belonging' than any actual physical issue.
 

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Charm said:
Dude, forget what you know and listen to the people here with experience. Hell, youve been around here since 2003 like me, you should have more things figured out by now. Clean your face up with some good nutrogena face wash, get some lotions, etc.

Smile and look into the camera not pouty like a woman. A sly grin would do wonders
I use face products, so my face is even colour and not shining. But not on the pic:(

I edited my previous post. What do you say.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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