"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi,
I just had the girl of my dreams confessed her love to me. I don't know what I did wrong, but she got scared.... Probably I came too strong about how I felt about her. (and the fact that she lives kinda far away didn't help either)
Anyways she had second thoughts.

I've been dating other girls, Hotties, in an effort to get over her.... But I haven't been able to.

So my Question is....

How Do I know If I am having a case of ONEitis or am I truly in-love?

How can I draw the line between those 2 situations?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Since you are not actively communicating your love for eachother (Notice FOR EACHOTHER) on multiple levels meaning physical and emotional, you can assume that you are not in-love and that this is ONEitis. It will go away with time and practice out on the field with other women as well as doing positive things with your life.
 
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Now, Why would she freak out when I indirectly and subtly told her I may love her back?

Now...there's an Ilogical behavior I would like to have explained...!
 
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ChaoticGamer said:
Now, Why would she freak out when I indirectly and subtly told her I may love her back?

Now...there's an Ilogical behavior I would like to have explained...!
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That's your first mistake. Expecting logic from chicks.

My responses to "I love you" in the past:

"Word?"
"I love football"
"You don't love me. You just love my doggystyle."
"I know. My bad, I mean thank you."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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ONE-I-TIS: won-I-tis - n: The act of a male focusing all of his efforts on one female and believing she is the best for him without simultaneously sarging other women in order to make an authentic comparison to determine her worthiness.
 
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ChaoticGamer said:
Should I always come with a Cold response? even when I may be in-love?
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"Always" doesn't apply. Saying "I love you" isn't black and white. It depends on the girl and situation. It's not about being cold, but I personally wouldn't say it to a girl that I don't even see.

But if she "confessed her love", then you doing the same shouldn't have driven her off. Unless you were weird about it. The fact that you're asking this question is proof you have one-itis. If the girls you were dating were really HB's, you wouldn't think twice about it. Especially over a girl that doesn't live close to you.

To be honest, I question your post.
 
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Love Rears Its Ugly Head.

ChaoticGamer said:
Now, Why would she freak out when I indirectly and subtly told her I may love her back?

Now...there's an Ilogical behavior I would like to have explained...!
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I once freaked out when a girl I loved told me she loved me. My friends all say I'm a little ***** so maybe your girly is going through what I did.

"Oh my god, I'm not ready for LOVE! There is still so many chicks to ****!"

Or maybe she just wants you to prove your love.

JJ
 
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