"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hi,
I just had the girl of my dreams confessed her love to me. I don't know what I did wrong, but she got scared.... Probably I came too strong about how I felt about her. (and the fact that she lives kinda far away didn't help either)
Anyways she had second thoughts.

I've been dating other girls, Hotties, in an effort to get over her.... But I haven't been able to.

So my Question is....

How Do I know If I am having a case of ONEitis or am I truly in-love?

How can I draw the line between those 2 situations?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Since you are not actively communicating your love for eachother (Notice FOR EACHOTHER) on multiple levels meaning physical and emotional, you can assume that you are not in-love and that this is ONEitis. It will go away with time and practice out on the field with other women as well as doing positive things with your life.
 
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Now, Why would she freak out when I indirectly and subtly told her I may love her back?

Now...there's an Ilogical behavior I would like to have explained...!
 
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ChaoticGamer said:
Now, Why would she freak out when I indirectly and subtly told her I may love her back?

Now...there's an Ilogical behavior I would like to have explained...!
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That's your first mistake. Expecting logic from chicks.

My responses to "I love you" in the past:

"Word?"
"I love football"
"You don't love me. You just love my doggystyle."
"I know. My bad, I mean thank you."
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ONE-I-TIS: won-I-tis - n: The act of a male focusing all of his efforts on one female and believing she is the best for him without simultaneously sarging other women in order to make an authentic comparison to determine her worthiness.
 
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ChaoticGamer said:
Should I always come with a Cold response? even when I may be in-love?
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"Always" doesn't apply. Saying "I love you" isn't black and white. It depends on the girl and situation. It's not about being cold, but I personally wouldn't say it to a girl that I don't even see.

But if she "confessed her love", then you doing the same shouldn't have driven her off. Unless you were weird about it. The fact that you're asking this question is proof you have one-itis. If the girls you were dating were really HB's, you wouldn't think twice about it. Especially over a girl that doesn't live close to you.

To be honest, I question your post.
 
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Love Rears Its Ugly Head.

ChaoticGamer said:
Now, Why would she freak out when I indirectly and subtly told her I may love her back?

Now...there's an Ilogical behavior I would like to have explained...!
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I once freaked out when a girl I loved told me she loved me. My friends all say I'm a little ***** so maybe your girly is going through what I did.

"Oh my god, I'm not ready for LOVE! There is still so many chicks to ****!"

Or maybe she just wants you to prove your love.

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