"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I just be friends?

zack77766

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This girl I like has a gf that goes to my school. Im not sure if that girl still likes me but oh well. Im pretty sure if I be friends with that girl my crush will be impressed. the problem is I dont want to seem too interested in the friend. Should I mention my crush (How can I do so?)? Should I say something like hey, you're (my crush's name) friend!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Stéphane

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Dude, just ask your crush out. It's not the end of the world if she says no.
 

wavejams007

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how bout you be friends with both of them, and stop trying to do stuff just to impress her. If you know what you are worth, than act like it, and she will catch on. also, see the movie hitch. Romance aside, the movie had a couple good tips, and one of them pertained to getting to know a girl's best friend.
 

sam3083

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Pick one of the two above posts and do one of them.

No ifs, buts, or modification. Do one one of them right now.

Take action and you'll sleep better
 
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