How do I improve my wit?

[Epicwinguy]

It's my main problem. I've tried watching standup comedy but watching that specifically for self improvement makes it boring as ****.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

There is an underlying problem somewhere. I used to be pretty negative and shy until I left my toxic shvthole home city lol.

 

[espanish]

being witty is something you either are or are not. it's not something that can be taught. why do you have the need to be witty?

 

[Epicwinguy]

being witty is something you either are or are not. it's not something that can be taught. why do you have the need to be witty?

You need it to flirt and to be able to come up with quick comebacks so you don't get humiliated in front of people.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

You need it to flirt and to be able to come up with quick comebacks so you don't get humiliated in front of people.

Sounds like you are in a toxic environment.

 

[Epicwinguy]

Sounds like you are in a toxic environment.

I didn't think people here would be calling that toxic. While I sort of agree, it's what I have to deal with.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I didn't think people here would be calling that toxic. While I sort of agree, it's what I have to deal with.

lol what? What common scenarios are you in that put you in a potential chance of humiliation if you don't have a witty response? Are you a comedian or radio host?

 

[Epicwinguy]

lol what? What common scenarios are you in that put you in a potential chance of humiliation if you don't have a witty response? Are you a comedian or radio host?

Just talking to people sometimes puts me in this positions, but also you need a good wit to flirt.

 

[Billtx49]

Men with good flirt potential and wit are usually socially relaxed, have a sense of humor, self confident, and have a positive attitude when out and about…
Self reflect on where you are currently at and what you can improve on.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP, there are exercises you can do to improve that are basically writing exercises. Work on free association, stream of consciousness, making lists of metaphors/analogies. You want to be able to make unusual connections (absurdity is a cornerstone of comedy) and make them quickly. These exercises should help.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

wit is quick thinking. recognizing potentially amusing situations. ability to verbalize. and confidence. practice.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Watch movies or shows that demonstrate that type of stuff...Vince Vaughn ones are usually really good...

DeadPool is another one

 

[espanish]

You need it to flirt and to be able to come up with quick comebacks so you don't get humiliated in front of people.

I gave up trying to figure out how to flirt because eventually I realized it's not for me. then i realized girls get much more turned on when I am being serious, than when I joke. there is a clear pattern. when I joke, I dont get the number. when I am serious, I do.

girls are not going to be impressed by quick come backs. Ya they might laugh but they don't think "wow this guy has quick come backs I want him inside me so much"

I don't know what you mean by humiliation. the feeling of humiliation is all in the head. it's not external. someone might be naked on stage and feel humiliated. someone else might be naked on stage and not feel humiliated.

 

[Gamisch]

The solution to your problem is being witty ALL THE TIME vs just around women .

Yes, you meet a free spiritual, bubbly witty women and find you are not quick enough ect, that's because that woman flirts with everything and everybody. It's like having a fist fight with a boxer.

You gotta be more "out there". You should be witty all the time. No exceptions. 80 y.o grandpa? 40 y.o fat chick? You are witty, funny, warm and open. Then , when a hb11 comes across your path you are trained to act this way.

Too many men wanna do things only for women. That could be eating in a nice restaurant, cleaning their house hitting the gym whatever. You pedestalize a woman you haven't even met yet this way .you gotta improve for YOU.

Change your heart and the rest will follow. I believe it were those hot black chicks who sing this once upon a time.

 

[member160292]

Being witty is a never-ending craft. Don’t expect everyone to react positively to it. I’ve met so many that actually have done stand up be the most socially awkward dimwits in social settings. These shouldn’t be your aim

Only way to improve your wit —Social Intelligience— is practice. Converse with people that you encounter, no matter how small the conversation is. It will open up doors for you

 

[Travel memoir21]

Here's an idea...have a comeback contest with your friends. Ever heard of Yo mama's jokes?

Just food for thought, practice makes perfect.

 

[VirtuousD]

being witty is something you either are or are not. it's not something that can be taught. why do you have the need to be witty?

You can improve your wit to some extent just like you can improve your social skills.

 

[Bethatsocialguy]

It's my main problem. I've tried watching standup comedy but watching that specifically for self improvement makes it boring as ****.

Change your environment. Hang out with a variety of different people. Understand what makes you laugh and push it into interactions and see what works and what doesn't

 

[Jor-El]

Not the OP, but why do so many on here see life "skills",if you like,as an all or nothing ? IE You dont need comedy to get women, you dont need big muscles/ be in shape to get women etc etc.. Its not about using just those things to get laid,all the things together help to improve the whole package,they are not magic bullets in and off themselves...no.you dont *need* comedy to get laid,but,all things being equal,it will only help you! Whoever heard a girl say "well,actually,I dont like laughing" Exactly. Things arnt always black and white

 

[espanish]

Not the OP, but why do so many on here see life "skills",if you like,as an all or nothing ? IE You dont need comedy to get women, you dont need big muscles/ be in shape to get women etc etc.. Its not about using just those things to get laid,all the things together help to improve the whole package,they are not magic bullets in and off themselves...no.you dont *need* comedy to get laid,but,all things being equal,it will only help you! Whoever heard a girl say "well,actually,I dont like laughing" Exactly. Things arnt always black and white

I was not saying he doesn't need it. The point is, his time could be spent doing something better than trying to be witty. It's like those guy who spend hours obsessing over if in their text they should write "you should come over, it will be fun" or "you should come over, it will be awesome" when they could be doing something better