"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do I handle groups?

zack77766

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This girl seems interested in me already. But she usually isnt alone and the group ranges from 1-4 (not including herself) w/ females or males. I dont really think it would be cool to ask for her number even if shes interested in front of her friends.......
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JDA70

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You got 3 options as I see it.
1. Ask her for her e-mail and number in
front of everyone and not care
what the other people think.
2. Get her isolated and ask for the e-mail and number.
3. Do nothing.

Your thoughts?
 

LostAndConfused

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Maybe this group thing should be addressed in general, as women frequently travel in groups...picking and singling out the one you desire without the others c*ckblocking you is hard.
 

arqz4

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man it's harder, you gotta analyse the circunstances

i was gettin some lunch the other day, and one hb 9.0 (for me of course) was givin' clear signals, however she was with her mom!!!

i just coudn't do it, its a pair not a group, but it shows the hardships when dealing with cold/almost cold approach...

i would have to have major confidence to get both, since i would have to include her mom and make both feel nice... i will some day be able to that
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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