"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I get rid of her??

mikeyb

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I broke up with my gf in July for a few reasons, the main one being that she blackmailed me into giving her money after we had a big fight.

She begged me to get back together with her and paid me back the money I gave her, even after I told her that was it and I wouldn't see her anymore. Then I left for the summer and she stopped calling little by little.

Fast forward to today - she shows up at my place and says I lent her some money about a year ago and she wants to pay me back. A) It wasn't much money and I didn't even remember lending it to her B) WTF is she doing?? She knows I don't want to get back together with her, and I certainly wouldn't have come after her for a few bucks.

Sorry if this sounds like a rant but I can't help being a little pissed right now. Although I told her not to contact me when I broke up with her, it took her the better part of the summer to obey and now she's just popped up again. How do I get rid of her??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mikeyb said:
I broke up with my gf in July for a few reasons, the main one being that she blackmailed me into giving her money after we had a big fight.

She begged me to get back together with her and paid me back the money I gave her, even after I told her that was it and I wouldn't see her anymore. Then I left for the summer and she stopped calling little by little.

Fast forward to today - she shows up at my place and says I lent her some money about a year ago and she wants to pay me back. A) It wasn't much money and I didn't even remember lending it to her B) WTF is she doing?? She knows I don't want to get back together with her, and I certainly wouldn't have come after her for a few bucks.

Sorry if this sounds like a rant but I can't help being a little pissed right now. Although I told her not to contact me when I broke up with her, it took her the better part of the summer to obey and now she's just popped up again. How do I get rid of her??
Am i missing something?

Take your money, say thanks and close the door... If you were stupid enough to let her inside then ask her to leave.
 

mikeyb

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That's what I did.

But if you were her, why would you pay me back, just like that? What would you stand to gain? I don't think I've seen the end of her and that's what bothers me.
 

Da Realist

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mikeyb said:
That's what I did.

But if you were her, why would you pay me back, just like that? What would you stand to gain? I don't think I've seen the end of her and that's what bothers me.
Either you broke her or it's just a ploy. And you can't break crazy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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