"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do I get in to this girl's pants

JPlaya

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remember the first girl , well I didn't give up her. I think she was too serious about school to focus on guys because she was the valedictorian and all. I've also been keeping the texts short and clean and texting her like every 4 days. I've been trying to avoid contact and only talk to her if she says hey or something. I haven't gotten the chance to kino, but I maintain eye contact and will get really close to her at some points. We were invited to a party and it was just me, her and like three other girls, and the most recent thing she texted me first was if I had a great time and stuff. Well, I want to get in this girl's pants this summer, and we're going to the same college. What do?

Also she texted me first before the party and after the party
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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another one with too much texting!

Every 4 days might not seem like much but consider the fact you are not actually seeing her, this is a lot of aimless contact

And then you text her but don;t make eye contact in person?

Think about what message this gives. It says you are comfortable with texts but weak in person. You take the lead when it is a text, but are unable to do so in real life.

is this a good look?
 

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Man I should have stated this. We hung at school everyday alone so I don't think she thinks that. She also invited me to do it. Well she's always with her friends so I'ts hard for me to say hi without me looking desperate.
 

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You shouldn't be texting someone that you feel unable to say hi to in public, this just reinforces the fact you are unable to do so in public
 

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I say hi if we happen to walk past each other and see each other. I won't say hi if she's across the room talking to her friends.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well school is over, so the only means of contact I have is phone. She doesn't like texting first, so I usually have to do it which bothers me.
 

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maybe you should ask her to go somewhere with you?

otherwise its just more aimless texting
 

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Is there anyway I can make it aim somewhere because I don't think this girl has had a bf throughout high school and she's like a 7 or 6
 
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